I (F18) don’t know how to help my boyfriend (M22) struggling with addiction
hey, i am not sure if this is an appropriate subreddit to post this in but i am very lost.
my boyfriend has recently gotten in a bad coke addiction and has suicidal thoughts in correlation to it. we have been dating for 8 months now. he used to do coke once in a while but it got to the point where he would do it every time he drank (which was every weekend and many weekdays)
he has been sober for a few weeks but still gets very bad cravings and gets depressed and angry. to help he started drinking heavily and while he cut down it is still bad. i don’t like when he drinks and get quiet when he does, which made the situation worse and made him drink more because he thought i didn’t like him.
i am trying my best to help but it feels like anything i do is taken badly and may be ending up making him even worse. when he calls his friend during withdrawals they help and he laughs and talks to them like normal but when i try help he gets angry at me and says i don’t understand how he’s feeling (which i know i don’t).
i have also suggested he should go to a meeting or call anonymous support lines but he is refusing.
having to deal with this has made me feel so drained and scared everyday because i don’t know how the next day will be. i feel guilty for feeling this way when i know he is the one with the problem.
does anyone have any tips of how i can help and what works to help an addict? i am terrified of losing him but i have never been in this situation and have no clue how to go about it.