husband online flirtations ???
i need help. My husband 25M and I 23F have been married for 4 years. I’m posting because I genuinely need outside opinions and I don’t really have anyone to talk to.
I recently found out that my husband had been talking to other women online for months behind my back. Asking to video call and flirting with them and even saving lots and lots of porn across tiktok and instagram. The very first thing i found was porn a year ago on instagram and i cried to him and told him to stop, and he promised to delete everything but now i found the online conversations. It wasn’t just one conversation or one bad decision. It was ongoing, and the hardest part is that there was a lot of lying involved. I would ask questions and be reassured that nothing was happening, only to later find out more.
My husband says he wants to fix things, but I honestly don’t know what to believe anymore because trust feels shattered.
For people who stayed after online cheating/emotional cheating: did it actually get better? What did rebuilding trust look like? How did you know they were truly sorry and not just sorry they got caught?
And for people who left: what was the moment that made you realize you were done?
I’m anxious to leave but scared to stay only for him to do worse in the future and i regret it
tl;dr husband online cheating/flirting got caught. stuck not knowing what path to choose