Salam brothers hope y’all doing well !
So I’m in my early twenties still in school and working paying bills and helping my family out.
I know I’m not ready for marriage that’s something I can admit so i have to delay marriage for now and save up so it’ll take a long time to do that. For the brother’s that is married how much money did you save to get married and how long did it take ?
I’m 22M, born and raised in America, and I need some advice about marriage and relationships.
I already know I’m probably not getting married anytime soon, especially in my early 20s. Right now I’m focused on school, saving money, getting myself financially stable, and just getting my life together.
The thing I’m worried about is what happens later when I’m actually ready for marriage, probably in my mid to late 20s.
Growing up, I was always told to stay away from women, don’t hang out with them, don’t talk to them, etc. Because of that, I really don’t have much experience. I’ve only had two “talking stages,” and both of them honestly felt boring to me.
Right now my phone is extremely dry too lol. I pretty much only talk to my family. I don’t really have anyone else I regularly text or talk to.
So when I eventually reach the point where I’m ready for marriage, where do I even begin? How do I build the communication and relationship skills I’ll need if I haven’t really dated since that’s haram or talked to women much?
Also, for anyone who got married in their late 20s, did you ever feel like you missed out on the fun part of getting married young? Like does marriage feel different or more boring at 27–29 compared to getting married at 21–24?
I know I’m still young, but this is something I’ve been thinking about lately. I’d especially like to hear from people who were in a similar situation.