u/Ok_Instruction_7096

Last week before the end of a play group I take my 2 years old and 3 years old to my son pushed a doll pram towards the organizer of the group. She shouted loudly at my son saying “stop it! This is not the first time you have done that”. My son got scared, everyone at the group was shocked and nobody said anything.

I calmed my son down and was very stressed so didn’t know what to do. I thought about it and today when we went I said to her “ I didn’t like the way you shouted at my son, I know you got hurt and reacted to it, and I would like it if next time he does something you don’t like to point it out to me if I don’t notice so I can talk to him and discipline him as I put him in time outs or remove him from the environment.
She was very upset and rude, she said that I wasn’t watching him and that I was helping my friend with her daughters! My friends wasn’t there that day. I told her as I have two children sometimes I don’t see everything each one of them do or I may just not notice it, so if he does something I don’t notice or if he hurts someone to tell me and I will discipline my child. I don’t like shouting at my children.

She got upset and she said no, next time he does something I will shout at you. I said that’s fine I am an adult and I can deal with it and I will not get scared and cry. She walked away

I am really bothered by her attitude and don’t know if I’m overreacting. My friend suggested I speak to the person who is responsible for the church that this group is being held at.

Shall I just leave it and stop going there ? Why im also bothered is that lady is a child minder and a foster carer and I think she should do better with children…