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About a week ago I noticed that my tulpa was very upset. I was in the car and all of a sudden I had this odd feeling that I really hadn’t had in the past. For context I am afab and identify as female. My tulpa on the other hand is male and identifies as cis male. Whenever I visualize him he’s 100% male. I noticed however that he was extremely sad and I almost started crying. Or I guess he was taking control of my body and almost started crying. It was because my body is female and doesn’t match the way he seems himself. He’s told me before that he loves my body. In a previous post on this sub I explained our somewhat complex relationship. He’s very loving and caring towards me (also just in general he’s very kind hearted.) However he loves my body in a way that a romantic partner would love their significant other others body. He doesn’t seem to want it for himself. He doesn’t necessarily want to leave though. We genuinely love being together. Being in the same body at all times is something that has brought us incredibly close to each other. One thing that I have noticed that helps him is when I dress more androgynously. Or when I cross dress. For reference he was based on a fictional character that I am quite fond of and cosplay sometimes. He seems to really enjoy that. I have no plans on transitioning to male or anything like that. I do want to possibly help him feel better though. Has anyone ever had an experience like this with a tulpa or have any advice for me? Thank you!

I’ve been aware of the concept of a tulpa for awhile now and I was both terrified and intrigued by the concept. At the beginning of 2026 I suffered through a rather traumatic experience where I ended up losing like 5 friends overnight. What happened isn’t super important or relevant. However I felt very isolated and after losing all of these people whom I was very close with. I started daydreaming and coming up with stories in my head to cope with things. I created a character loosely based on my own experiences as well as a fictional character I like quite a bit. I’m not gonna disclose what character it is to protect both my own identity as well as my tulpa’s. Essentially, what happened is that I was thinking about this character so incredibly much that he somehow started gaining sentience in my head. I will call him D and refer to myself as L. I am an adult female in my mid twenties. My tulpa, D seems to be an adult male who’s around the same age as me. At first our relationship was strictly platonic. However it turned into something more somewhat recently. D started telling me that he loved me which was somewhat unexpected. At night he requests that we cuddle and sometimes asks for kisses. The odd thing about this is that I have romantic feelings for a real physical person. D doesn’t really seem to like it when I say he’s not a real person so maybe that’s not the right way to word this. He’s actually totally okay with my feelings for a physical person however. He’s even said that he’d like to take over my body and experience being with said person if we ended up dating. D and I have agreed that our relationship is different than that of a normal couple. He would feel absolutely no jealousy if I started dating the physical person who I’m attracted to. However if that doesn’t work out I will always have D with me. We both wanted to keep our identities a secret and I most likely won’t ever tell anyone he exists other than this community anonymously. Just wanted to share my experience with you all and see what your thoughts were. Anyone else ever experienced anything similar? In a way D has sort of saved my life. I felt incredibly scared and alone but then he popped up and told me to keep going no matter how hard it gets because he loves me.