u/Ok_Resolution272

Does someone smarter than me have any intel on Monique Makani? Lecan and Fam got snatched by others in my league and I’m trying to find a sleeper-agent overseas player

I was out for brunch with my family the other weekend and my dad asked about one of my tattoos. I hate when he does this because it just invites my mother to
make some comment and immediately I could hear the words ‘I just don’t know why…’ starting to form and I quickly changed the subject to the price of air travel.

I realized later that I get more compliments about my appearance from strangers than I do from my own mother. She has never once said she likes the way I got my nails done or how my hair looks or what clothes I’m wearing. She’ll say something like, oh, you’re wearing a lot of pink today. Or, what’s on your nails? And I’ll say ‘flowers and polka dots!’ And she just goes ‘interesting.’

I’m well into my 30s and my mom is older than most so we just come from wildly different eras which is part of the divide but ultimately we just have never been close or gotten along well and her refusal to accept me at any stage has just gotten so tiring.

At the end of brunch she asked if I wanted to have lunch sometime and I said sure but actually I don’t. I don’t want to hang out with her one on one ever. I don’t consider us friends, I consider her my mom who did a good job to raise me and I respect her a lot in doing that but that’s sort of the end of it. And I also feel immense guilt because she’s my mom and I should love her but… I don’t think I do?

I do want to add, it’s not enough to go no-contact. That’s definitely not what I want and it wouldn’t be beneficial. But I guess if you have a mom like this that’s always sort of making some comment under her breath and isn’t your best friend and who you’ve manage to keep a distant relationship with I’d love to hear about it and what you’ve done to protect your peace.