u/Ok_Session_580

Last year, I posted on here a couple of times and met two men.

1- Canadian who lied to me about his entire background but hired a private investigator to look into my life. I had to report him to the police in his area because of how creeped out I was.

2- Iranian American based on the east coast. I had to let the authorities know because be found so much about me and kept messaging me off of other apps. He was also talking to about 20 other women and we all found one another.

It’s now been more than a year since I talked to either of them and I get pranks calls 2 times a day, once at 11 am and once at 5 pm EST. The calls are of a man laughing. This has been going on for months.

I’m not looking for further solutions, but even if you meet in person, you can’t trust anyone. Be cautious. There are good people in this thread but and there’s only so much the MODs can do. But be smart. Smarter than me.

Getting to know men for marriage is honestly embarrassing at this point. Specifically from Michigan as I am from there I think I’m not generalizing and it’s the truth that 85% of men in the very beginning want to know if you’ve “been with anyone before” or take the conversation to “you need to sexually be able to keep up with me and I want to know what your appetite is”. Tfeh. If you’re Shia man who prioritizes sex and araf before prioritizing someone’s morals and khalaq, you need therapy. This is why no one gets married anymore and why we have so many single people.

Update: people are missing the point of my post. If you talk about sex from the beginning it’s a major turnoff because why are you asking? I’ve never had sex or been with anyone sexually and when I tell them they’re disgusting for asking they think I’m hiding things because they themselves are nasty. Try to be a little less nasty and get to know a person for who they are. Nasties.

Update #2: some of your responses prove my point 100000%. Shia men continue to prove this correct no matter where they’re from. But I must say I’ve gotten so many supportive and nice messages from men and women. Lots of women have shared convos they’ve had with men in real life not on Reddit that align with what I’m saying. This is real.

I know my account is new. After many failed attempts at Muzz and mingling with my community not working, I decided to give this platform one last try. Please don’t message me if you’re going to lie to me about your identity or if you’re not willing to share socials within the first or second week on here. Don’t make me lose more hope than I have 🙃

I know there’s a format but I want to be as honest as possible. I’m a 29 year old Lebanese American woman based in the metro Detroit area. I’m a career woman as I’ve spent my free time building myself up. I love to learn and grow as a person. My dean is very important to me. I live a very low key and laid back life style. Health is super important to me. I enjoy traveling, reading, and hiking. I am open to all ethnicities but I would prefer to be with a Lebanese neighboring Arab. But that’s just because I have never talked to anyone outside of the Lebanese community so who knows? I am 5’10 so I would prefer a taller man. I am extremely introverted and shy so be patient with me. I look forward to speaking with you!