Did I do the right thing ending it?
Hey guys 23f here, I was recently talking to someone, we'd been talking for about 3 months before I ended things. She was perfect or so i thought, we had so much in common and we hit it off yk. I start noticing patterns in month two, she's not as emotionally intelligent as she claims to be.
Fast forward to father's day, that's always a hard week for me because I lost my dad so I was having a really tough week. I tell her about it obviously and she decides to send me an article she'd written on grief as comfort. I don't read it immediately but when I do it doesn't give the sense of comfort she'd intended for it to give. I thank her for it and later on I tell her it didn't really do what she'd hoped it would.
This leads to an argument, she's mad i told her her article wasn't comforting. I ask her whether she's gone through any loss and the answer was no. So I tell her writing about a pain she hasn't experienced and hoping I would relate to it is a reach. She says it's my fault I didn't tell her how I wanted to be comforted and that if I'd told her she'd be able to do better.
We don't talk for a few days, I apologise and things go back to normal. A few days later my cousin is found dead, he was murdered. I am in the worst space I could possibly be in, I tell her about it, she's like damn sorry, and continues with the conversation like nothing happened.
She doesn't ask how I feel the entire week leading to the funeral, she's very dismissive when I try talking to her about it. After the funeral she never really asks about it. My cousin and I were very close, we talked about everything and anything, so his death leads me to a very dark place. I don't engage in conversation with her as much as I used to but I communicate that I'm not in the best place at the moment with her. She starts ignoring me and not talking to me. We are in these really weird space and I ask her about it, she says I started it so she matched the energy and I'm really confused aki. So I start texting her regularly again ju I really wanted it to work, she's dry as hell with me every single time. I try asking what's wrong and she says everything is okay, na for like two weeks I check up on her na it feels like I'm doing too much at this point. Mind you not once does she reciprocate my questions, I'll ask her how her day was, she'll answer and thats that,conversation inaisha. A few days later she says I'm taking too long to fall in love with her, when we started talking i told her i don't fall easily, sasa iyo ikakuwa kesi ingine na i had to apologise for it pia. So mimi I opted to just end it i decided to talk to her about it. There was no response from her side kidogo kidogo napata niko blocked.