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Do you guys prefer to use condoms or rawdog?

I normally bottom and i have always had issues whenever I use a condom. Theres a time two years back that I even chose to abstain because of how much the friction involved would hurt . I have tried every brand and its usually the same situation and rawdogging isnt always an option because you never really know whether youre being lied to or not. I know that prep exists but it doesnt prevent other stds like herpes which is more difficult to live with. Being horny and single doesn't help my case beacuse theres so many temptations but I never let the flesh win even if my needs are not met.

If you have ever wondered or been curious about whether you should join tinder…trust me dont.

Ive (22b) been on that pink app about 3 months now and I’m the same before I joined, a couple matches, but for whatever reason no one is ever interested in texting back, maybe once per week if I’m lucky.

ive also tried grindr but its probably worse…”uko?” every interaction and no one can hold a conversation beyond I want to fuck.

Please let me know where to meet guys, I just wanna go on dates and cuddle, is that so hard to get

What's your experience with Somali dudes before I give one a chance 🤣🤣🤣

Guess what I got myself for my early birthday............ HIV. I discovered it on 26th June but I cannot get myself to go to a doctor. I don't trust people close to me. I cannot chicken out anymore. I need assistance. Any information will be appreciated

I was wondering wheter more members are into language learning? Maybe we can help each other out.

Speaking Spanish, English, French, German, Dutch, Swedish, Norwegian and Vietnamese fluently… and currently learning Swahili. If anyone intrested in an exchange, tell me…

I have been an ardent follower for gay Nairobi and although men were the ones majorly giving their experiences ,I'm glad that women are also coming in to give their experiences.

#tuendelezeushoga.

Hey guys 23f here, I was recently talking to someone, we'd been talking for about 3 months before I ended things. She was perfect or so i thought, we had so much in common and we hit it off yk. I start noticing patterns in month two, she's not as emotionally intelligent as she claims to be.

Fast forward to father's day, that's always a hard week for me because I lost my dad so I was having a really tough week. I tell her about it obviously and she decides to send me an article she'd written on grief as comfort. I don't read it immediately but when I do it doesn't give the sense of comfort she'd intended for it to give. I thank her for it and later on I tell her it didn't really do what she'd hoped it would.

This leads to an argument, she's mad i told her her article wasn't comforting. I ask her whether she's gone through any loss and the answer was no. So I tell her writing about a pain she hasn't experienced and hoping I would relate to it is a reach. She says it's my fault I didn't tell her how I wanted to be comforted and that if I'd told her she'd be able to do better.

We don't talk for a few days, I apologise and things go back to normal. A few days later my cousin is found dead, he was murdered. I am in the worst space I could possibly be in, I tell her about it, she's like damn sorry, and continues with the conversation like nothing happened.

She doesn't ask how I feel the entire week leading to the funeral, she's very dismissive when I try talking to her about it. After the funeral she never really asks about it. My cousin and I were very close, we talked about everything and anything, so his death leads me to a very dark place. I don't engage in conversation with her as much as I used to but I communicate that I'm not in the best place at the moment with her. She starts ignoring me and not talking to me. We are in these really weird space and I ask her about it, she says I started it so she matched the energy and I'm really confused aki. So I start texting her regularly again ju I really wanted it to work, she's dry as hell with me every single time. I try asking what's wrong and she says everything is okay, na for like two weeks I check up on her na it feels like I'm doing too much at this point. Mind you not once does she reciprocate my questions, I'll ask her how her day was, she'll answer and thats that,conversation inaisha. A few days later she says I'm taking too long to fall in love with her, when we started talking i told her i don't fall easily, sasa iyo ikakuwa kesi ingine na i had to apologise for it pia. So mimi I opted to just end it i decided to talk to her about it. There was no response from her side kidogo kidogo napata niko blocked.

Been attracted to a guy for a while but he doesn't know or never talked. Always seeing him on the street. Today he came by a place i work at and by a chance got his number through indirect ways but got no chance to tell him how i feel about him. Fuck he was so cute to a point i wanted to just kiss him😂 but i controlled myself. How can i go about this now that i have his number. Don't know whether he is straight or gay. I just want him really bad. Advise please😭🙏

As an introvert, I heavily isolate myself even from the few friends I have. Sasa kuna huyu mmoja huongea through WhatsApp status. He's the type to not say what is bothering him but will post a related post or meme. The typical, "I will not call you or text you, if you don't call me first. I have stopped putting myself in places I'm not appreciated" yada yada. Kinda gen x of him.

It was sorta cute at first but now it's annoying. I texted him 'happy birthday' after accidentally tapping his status and seeing his post, 'thank you to all those that wished me happy birthday 🎂🎈'. I guess birthdays are a big thing for Nairobians 🤷. That was two days ago, text ata haijasomwa but he's still posting stories on IG and statuses on WhatsApp.

Am I being ignored for not wishing him earlier or sending a gift? Like, I am not selfish or anything. I just feel like gifts should mean something. We've barely known each other for a year and I feel like he wasn't supposed to expect a gift from me because we haven't known each other for that long.

My go to move when a 'friendship' gets to this point is to block and delete but I don't want to do that yet. The mind reading bs is what I hate doing and also the ignorance of texts. It's so childish. Anyway, I'll give it a week and then if he doesn't respond, that will be a response.

22F . So first of all I've never had sex not because I don't want to, trust me I've been getting horny as hell but like where am I even supposed to start. I do not have a boyfriend because I've not been attracted to anyone for a long while , i feel like even if i do like guys I am not that sexually attracted to them...

So that brings me to the second thing which is i think i might also be into women. I mean I've been curious about what it would be like for a while. of course women are gorgeous and i think id like to try kissing one but like I don't know where to start or where to find a lady willing to experiment

Hey guys👋🏼 I need yall's input in this situation.

I'm a 21M in a relationship with a 23M. So recently my partner has been acting weirdly towards me. I asked him abt this and he told me that sb had told him that I was cheating on him with them. His response to this person, let's call him person X was sth in the lines of (you can have him, I'm out✌🏼) My bf then asked me abt it and I told him that I haven't been with any other person other than him. I reassured him that I'm not cheating and we became fine. Yesterday when I was checking up on him, he says he's not fine which naturally prompts me to ask him abt it. He takes hours to reply, on IG, he was online an hr ago. So I text him on WhatsApp telling him that ik he's online. He still takes more hrs to reply. He finally replies saying it's nothing. I got so agitated and annoyed because why would you tell me you're not ok and when I ask abt it you tell me you're fine....like what is this? Hours pass by, he tells me again he's stressed and I ask him what's stressing him. He tells me he'd rather not talk abt it atm. I respect this, i ask him if he'll tell me tomorrow to which he says it's ok. So we find sth else to talk abt. He sends a vn telling me person X has approached him again with accusations involving me. I ask him what are the accusations and who is this person X.....nothing

He doesn't tell me shit. He tells me it looks like this person knows you so I get spooked because wth....I ask him who he is, no reply.

What do you guys suggest i should do?

Edit: I talked to him abt hiding that piece of info from me and he simply said that it shouldn't be a matter of concern. He claims that he has blocked person x because as he claims this person has negative energy. I tried telling him why this info is important to me (it will enable me reevaluate the people I consider close or who I let close to me should it be this person X is amongst them) He adamantly refused. We ended the convo with tension. My last text was "Mahn I don't understand you at times" to which he replied "it's ok" He sent me a reel today morning saying I'll to which I hearted the reel. (I did so for him to know I still love him i just need my time) he told me "morning" on IG, I didn't reply. Few hrs later he sends 2 view once pics on whatsapp saying i should open alone (he fucking sent me nudes😭) like can you not read the room!? I never responded till now.

21 M .Had a hookup where i was topping and mid sex the guy tells me he's cheating on his boyfriend. Literally the second time topping ever. I feel so disgusted with myself and even more that i continued. I'm not asking for sympathy or anything,just want to know where i can get PEP ,how much it l cost and sti testing tomorrow i guess.(he stealthed me idk for how long but once i realised i got another ,this was before he told me and now I'm thinking it was intentional)

So I'm currently staying with my mum and bless her soul she's a good mother who let's me do things but she runs a tight ship when it comes to drugs or alcohol. She doesn't know that I do them or maybe she does. Anyway anytime I feel like taking a puff I have to go and "reconnect with nature" and so lazima nitafute chuom somewhere to smoke and chill coz going home high might induce paranoia and snitch me out. On this particular day (two days ago) as routine as always I go outside for some of that good weed and I usually have a spot where I smoke and chill. Its a cute lil spot I even made a lil bench to sit on and it has a really nice view where I can smoke and ponder. So as I get near the spot , I was probably a few hundred metres to the spot, I decide to light that mf up and this particular area is bit bushy so the spot is pretty hidden, while I walk towards the spot I hear movements but in my mind I'm like that's probably a cat or dog coz the place is well hidden. The idea of another person being there never crossed my mind. As I took a final turn to the spot, lo and behold I see two niggas making out passionately, like they hadn't seen each other for years. You know when in world war 2 when the gay soldiers went to war and they came back home to find their lovers waiting for them and they made out passionately, yeah it was like that. Couldn't even see their hands coz they were inside each other's pants😭😭At this point I'm high so everything is like a movie I don't even know how long I was standing there like a fucking creep but one of the guys noticed me and you could see the pure horror in his eyes when our eyes met. Everything next happened so fast but I've never seen niggas run that fast😂😂😂in a blink of an eye I was all alone. I sat at my bench horny and high and disappointed that they didn't even offer me to join them😭. I get why but still it was so hot 😭they were kissing like two gay French authors in the Napoleon era. Made me realise how lonely af I am atm. I smoked the rest of the joint and I went home dejected af wondering when's it gonna be me.

I have been to couple events and majority of the people there were gay men really hot gay men but the girls were like 2-3 and taken so where do the girls hangout?? Where should I be looking?

People with wababa/ sugar daddies, can you share your experience? How did you get them, do y'all spend time together and how much do they spend on you? I'm genuinely curious

Went grocery shopping today at a certain Naivas along thika rd and this man walked in with whom I assume to be his girl. Let me tell you, I haven't seen a man mwenye ameiva venye huyu alikuwa ameiva. Vivid description you might ask?

Tall about 6'0 or 6'1 (I'm 6'1 for context) or slightly taller than me. He had a blue basketball vest and Grey sweatshirts, the light material one, socks and a pair of joggers. Taper fade, arm tattoos. He had huge biceps, nice leg muscles and a nice round muscular ass. He was darkskin😍 mahn walahi I'm already throbbing writing this😭

That ass was so fat khai, I just wanted to kneel right there and then and just eat it from the back as I fondle his d from the front😭 halafu I was behind him at the cashiers. As soon as their stuff were screened, just before they started paying, I put my stuff on the cashier table and he helped me push them near the machine for scanning. We made a brief eye contact and walahi he fucked in 4 diff positions for those few seconds😭 idk whether to attach his photo here incase he's a reddit user🌚😭😭😭

Hey, so I was scrolling on this app and then saw a post from another sub eti there is a queer club around bus station in cbd called kwa ken. As an adventurous person who knows almost all gay spaces in Nairobi, I became curious. Anyone here who knows where it is located?

I've been doing some research into what it would actually take for same-sex marriage to be legally recognised in Kenya, and I thought I'd share what I've found.

It seems that simply amending the Marriage Act wouldn't be enough. The bigger issue is Article 45(2) of the Constitution, which currently says that every adult has the right to marry a person of the opposite sex.

Because Article 45 is part of the Constitution and the Bill of Rights, changing the law to recognise same-sex marriage would require amending the Constitution itself.

From what I've found, there are two possible routes:

• Parliamentary initiative (Article 256): A constitutional amendment Bill would need to pass through both Houses of Parliament with the required majority. Since it would affect the Bill of Rights, it would then have to be put to a national referendum.

• Popular initiative (Article 257): Citizens could initiate a constitutional amendment, beginning with support from at least one million registered voters, followed by the required county assembly and parliamentary stages, and ultimately a referendum.

For the referendum, the Constitution requires participation by at least 20% of registered voters in each of at least half of the counties, and a simple majority of those voting would have to support the amendment.

So, as I understand it, if Kenya were ever to legalise same-sex marriage, it would involve constitutional amendment + parliamentary processes + a national referendum, rather than simply changing the Marriage Act.

I'm curious what others in the community think. Is constitutional reform something the LGBTQ+ movement in Kenya should be seriously discussing, or are there other legal avenues that could eventually lead to recognition of same-sex relationships?