r/GayNairobi

(19M) I have always considered myself some goth recluse incapable of emotion. The first and last time I was "in love" was in high school and the guy ended up hating me because I passed exams without studying hard and he wasn't really the sharpest tool in the shed. He even chose a subject combination I didn't just to get away from me cause I was "distracting" him and called me a snake and many other stuff(btw I still miss the smell of his sweat and his voice and his eyes and his arms and his awkward walking and his long slender dick). Fast forward ...I'm in 2nd year in a uni close to home so I just commute, so sijawai really experience all that freedom ya outside nor have I interacted with any gay guys in school as I'm not that social. So there is this local minisupermarket in our estate.This year they added a new staff member. Oh my God he is so hot, not model hot but hot. His face is well chiselled and has a sexy jawline, his redlips and his ugly hair, to die for. I always knew he was straight-ish until one day I asked for assistance and his pointing and talking was gay af. I was lowkey happy but also dismayed that he's fem-ish. Over time, despite him being fem, I have grown to like him. Every time nikiskia natumwa dukani I get a borner imagining seeing him. I even buy things separately so as to make extra rounds just to see him, but never talk to him. One day in my morning ride I saw him cycling past our gate as I came back home. I finally found the ice breaker... I asked him his gate number and he said haishi huko that he was just visiting a "friend" ( no one sees a friend saa moja asubuhi on a cold morning". My overthinking ahh resolved that he was fondling with some girl who lives on our road) . I was broken by the possibility of his hetereosexuality, though I still found him attractive but knew he's just straight. Now today I woke up early to cycle, nikafika some place a lil far from home and spotted him going to work. He also saw me and our eyes locked, an awkward 20seconds ensued until he waved at me nikimpita and I waved back, nikapiga corner and then turned around to admire him and boom, we locked eyes again, he was also staring at me and we smiled at each other. Later in the day I went to the minimart, bought my stuff and queued to pay , he then came out of nowhere, told me to go to his iyo kitu ya kuscan vitu za kulipa, then talked to me about how he likes my bike and my short and said how his bike iliaribika, alikuwa anablush while talking and for some reason he taught me parts of a bicycle. I paid na simu nikaenda and he called me back held my hand (aki I was immediately hard and I think he saw it) and asked "ni hii 105 umelipa, imeleta blabla[my name]" and I was like yeah, ni mimi, and he was like "ahh finally nimejua jinako, I'll see you around" and my awkward ahh didn't even ask for his name and walked out. Aki mapenzi inaniua. Is there a chance or am I just overthinking it coz I'm lovestarved and touchstarved ?

TL,DR; Haven't been in love in years, I'm in love but not certain if it's reciprocated or I'm just overcomplicating stuff

Hey everyone! I am gay and want to date somebody from kenya, I am from India, living in Germany. Can share more information in DM.

Why do I want to date someone from Kenya.

I have many Friends from Cameroon and Kenya, especially Kenya people living overseas. I find the diverse culture of Cameroon really impressive. I have heard “the real Africa lives in Kenya

Hey, I'm 24f. I've been gay all my life. My first kiss was a girl. I was 7 or 8 😂. That said I've only ever been in one gay relationship. I made the first move. We dated for about a year. We broke up in January. I've healed and learnt a lot since.

I love femininity. I love love. I love fun.

I have made peace with the likelihood of me ending up alone, but I'm still open. Just not to bulshit. I don't want to be used as a lab rat by my straight friends anymore, enough of that.

Studs scare me I won't lie 😭. It always seems like a terrible idea to deal with a stud yet i still find them hot. Though i have to say I don't really care about labels. Stem, fem, stud whatever 😂

Anyways there was no purpose to this, I'm just rotting in bed i think i should get myself some Galitos what do you think?

Has anyone ever been in a truly, drug free, sober queer relationship?

You guys just rawdogging life with love as your crutch.

I don't know if I am the problem or if this happens to y'all as well. I could be madly head over heels for someone for the longest time then they do something really trivial and that just disappears.

I lost interest in a sneakylink cause I caught them slurrping their tea one day and that turned me off completely. I had a talking stage that was going great until they spelt " platonic" as " plutonic".

Someone who stirs their tea with the spoon hitting against the cup immediately looks like and old goat herder to me. The crazy things is I do this shit too sometimes but when someone else does them, my mind just goes " Nope! You deserve better."

Wale watu (mostly the homophobes) wanasemanga homosexuals and the broader LGBTQ+ community have a "demonic" agenda,what is it all about?

Is there a briefing I missed or it's in a manifesto somewhere?

Dm if you know 😂

So hi guys I'm a straight guy. People describe me as attractive. But Im really into fems. I don't know I guess that's my truth

Whenever anyone tells me they're virgins, I'm usually skeptical about meeting them. As much as it's a physical act, a lot of mental dynamics are usually involved as well.

I do top most times, but I've bottomed before, I remember the first time I bottomed, bruv that shit was painful AF😂💔. I never talked to the guy who dealt with this ass for the first time, I ended up resenting him. Idk why. I also remember getting home and being like, "i'm done with this gay shit," jokes on me😂...8 years later, nimenawiri aisee!😂

So recently, I met up with this friend of mine, we've known each other for like 3 years, you know how Nairobi is just crazy, our schedules used to clash, and we had not met for the longer part of that period. We finally met, and shit went down. His booty was a virgin!

After realising he was a virgin, kidogo nivae suruali nirudi home. I'm just not a good teacher, and that process requires a lot of patience. I don't want to be hated as well😂. He talked me through it and how he was finally ready to take D, and yeah, shit was a struggle. He was tight! Great sesh in general.

Took me about 10 minutes for it to be in. Well, he was a good student, he relaxed his muscles properly but yoh, I was terrified for a minute. Yeah, so... he doesn't hate me. It's such a relief!

The skepticism still lingers, though😊

Another thing, if you've never taken dick before, say that... idk why people feel like they're supposed to be pros or whatever. There's no trophy here, guys. Communicate so that your guy will know how to deal with you.

I have come to the conclusion that i hate him i hate how my lips contort a smile everytime i think of him i hate how anytime his name lingers in my mind my heart skips a beat cause he was my first everything and the worst is I can’t tell anyone cause they will be in my ear telling me no he wasn’t good for you but that’s the thing when i love i love so deeply that it engulfs me and i end up falling and falling with no safety net (thanks queen ari) i think i do love him but if i say that then am i still at the restaurant when i know he barely acknowledges me or even remembers i existed

I have no one to tell this so I'll tell the void.

I just made out with the prettiest human being on earth🥹. He's 24 and I'm 21, i kid you not he looks like a mini Damson Idris but with scruff,nikona beard burns on my face. Yo he's so precious,asked when he can see me next,text him when i get home.

We literally couldn't keep our lips off each other,adi ziko sore . Stayed and cuddled but couldn't be too long ju his cousin was coming back.

I don't know ,i just feel euphoric.

End of story

I’ve met a number of gay or queer men , married and all the ones I’ve met and had a conversation about what’s it’s like to gay and married , to be straight acting most were unhappy with their lives beyond miserable

Again wanting to be open it does come with its own challenges but damn I rather be alone in this world with that kinda of sadness than be stuck in my own prison world.

Pride month comes to end soon , our queer spaces and community are everything we should never stop fighting for them because queer people need spaces they can be safe and accessible

You’ll always live in a state of ambivalence if you cant authentically show up as you

Wueh, no one prepared me for a breakup. It was more than sex

I am normally top. Started bottoming in May. Tell me why my body count for tops is over 30! Wueh!

For context, I have a hot body. I can tell I am like the ideal body type for a lot of gays. I am young, tall, strong and huge. Bottoms and tops want me. My ass is huge AF and can even clap. My dick is long about 8.2 inches.

My first bottoming experience

For the longest time, guys have asked me to bottom but for like 4 years I refused.

Tried it in May and I've not been able to stop it. I have realised that the reason why I had stopped is because I did not have any leverage since I used to go to peoples houses and stuff like that. And then also I had no idea how to douche or clean my ass. When I was younger, I did not know about things like what food I should be eating, what food is wrong with my stomach and stuff like that now I understand all these things since I'm an adult and so it's easy for me to even eat foods that will allow me to bottom. And finally I hated being let down by tops.

Now that I'm older I can host, I can wash my ass, and I know and understand my body. This means that I am in a level I have never been before. Whether it's taking dick or not, it's okay. I don't feel vindicated when I wash my ass and someone doesn't even come because I have work to do. When I was younger bottoming meant I had to clean my ass, walk to the stage get a matatu and go to wherever this person was. This used to take me around 2 to 3 hours just to hook up. So you can imagine 1 to 2 hours to wash up then take a mat to his place by the time I've reached there digestion of what I've already eaten had already happened, so I found myself dirty again. And I did need to know how to wash. I didn't know since I used to use pipes at home, but when I went to the hostel in university, I didn't know how to wash. Plus douching takes time.

Now I barely eat a lot of food. Every day I take like one meal and so cleaning up is very easy. The foods I eat are very high in fibre and protein so it means digestion is slow and when sh*t comes out it comes out all of it. This means if I douche ones I could stay the whole day clean as long as I've not eaten anything else. That means I can take dick in the morning during the day during the afternoon, et cetera et cetera.

Plus having my house means that I can bring anyone at any time. I have had some guys who couldn't get hard, the dicks were too small, their dick couldn't fit in my ass and so many other problems. I replace them in a minute due to Grindr. Me hosting means that if someone disappoints me, I just told them to go and I don't have to waste time on transport or being in a Uber. This has freed me up so much.

Group fun

Finally, I have been in a lot of group activities so I end up with multiple partners in one night. I don't know if you guys know all star cyber but I have gotten dick there several times. There was a night I got around 8 people to nut inside me. Then one of the guys took me to El Vago and two other people nutted inside me. So the total for the night was 10.

This June has had a lot of gay/queer parties and orgies. At times we go to a party and then we find ourselves in someone's house for after hours kind of event. Of course you find ourselves in the bedroom making out and it turns out into a full-blown orgy with around 6-7 people.

Two weeks ago, I went for an orgy that had around 20 something people. Eight tops fucked me and I fucked around three bottoms. It was such an amazing night.

My relationship with being a top

I don't think I will be a top long. When we were at the OG, I found myself wanting to get fucked and not fucking. I don't know if it's because it's easier to get fucked as compared to having to fuck someone but the fact that I just could sleep and somebody could come and fuck me without me having to put any effort is hot as hell.

As a top, I feel like I am performing and I have to give the other person the best sex possible. This is a lot of pressure that honestly I am done with. In fact I have realise that I no longer reply to bottoms. This is crazy since just two months ago I could not even put a finger in my ass. I literally used to get soft when someone touched my ass. That's how much I was against bottoming. I could not do it even if somebody offered money. People have literally offered money to fuck me and I have told them no.

Plus, almost every top who has fucked me I ended up fucking them. I just flipped them. I told them I have to fuck you and 90% of them accept. Poppers help them to take dick. And the funniest thing is that a lot of them are so wide and loose. There's some tops who have fucked and my dick entered too easily. As if there was another massive dick inside him. So I'm like, 'I think a lot of these tops are lying about them being full tops because there's no actual way my dick which is also big is entering a them as though there have been other visitors before me.

What caused all this?

Honestly, I am not sure. But I had a very tough April and I wanted to relax since it was also my birthday month in May. So I took a trip somewhere and invited random guys to come. I think also me buying poppers made it even worse. Whenever I take poppers, weed and alcohol, I do not feel pain when taking dick. In fact, I feel like I am in heaven. No matter how big a dick is I am able to somehow take it in. However, I've not been able to take big dicks but every night and then whenever I get someone that big dick as long as it's not too long, I'm able to take it.

Also the fact that I'm really hot makes it very easy for me to have sex. Whether I go to a gay club or party, whether on Grindr or Tinder or even X, people want to smash they want me to fuck them and they want to fuck me. Wherever I am, people will come to me both tops and bottoms whether I show them interest or not, they will come. I honestly understand because I realise that I'm extremely extremely attractive. I look at myself and want to fuck myself. If I was in another body, I would want to fuck myself every day so I get there thinking that other people have.

Plus these days I've started dressing in a way that makes me look attractive. Kitambi I used to wear like a dad. Corporate, khaki, shirts instead of tshirts and this made me look older. That's what people told me these days are well like a young man. I wear tight clothes I wear, fitting clothes, Swaggy things just so I can look and this I think has increased my sexual capital. I think I used to dress up before because I was young. Clothing made me look at least 5+ years older than I was. Realised guys did not want to fuck a 21 y/o 😅

How do I protect myself?

Honestly, this is my biggest fear however I have taken prep every day and times they take two times in a day. The funniest thing is that in the orgies I attended, I never got any STI. I literally get an STI from fucking bottoms who are one on one. One bottom in particular from South Africa right is in Riara Road when I fucked him he insisted on wearing a condom but I told him I want raw. Two days later, I am at the fucking hospital. I thought him wanting condoms meant he was scared I was sick turns out its the other way round. I also noticed he has a lot partners becuase after I fucked him, a week later some guy asks if I want a 3sum and he sends the same guys pic. I felt like he is transmitting STIs willingly.

I think honestly bottoms are carriers of a lot of infections but they just don't know it so maybe I myself I'm also getting these infections but I can't be sure unless Trump tells me that they've gotten an STI. However my friend has told me about Doxy prep which I did not know was being given in Kenya.

To be honest, my biggest fear is to get HIV. HPV can be cured even though it takes time. But HIV has no cure and it needs to death. That is why I take prep every day. Every other disease is controllable.

Why am I sharing this?

Honestly, I don't know. I guess I want people to realise that there is a whole new world out there for sex. For those people who are sexually fluid or sexually curious you can't have a lot of sex and I wouldn't want anyone to feel limited to that partners.

I am writing this for myself who when he was 18 he decided he's not going to bottom anymore. That he was done with what I mean because it's not fun anymore. I'm writing also for the tops who feel ashamed that they like to take dick. This is actually very funny because I fucked so many tops to the point that I don't get why we are limited to roles.

What is next?

Going to Mombasa in 2-3 weeks and I know for a fact nitapanga roster since I know so many guys there. Naomba mniombee.

After that, I want to go for 2 months no sex since I feel like it is distracting me a lot. I have some goals for the year so I want to spend 2 months locked in doing 12 hour days just working.

Any questions? Let me know what you want me to talk about.

Pray for me guys