u/Ok_Smile4460

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Am I aroace or just emotionally broken?

Hi, I’ve had a lot of relationships, but they never seem to work out, and I’m starting to question myself in every possible way.

I have a really high libido, and I love the idea of sexual pleasure. But every time I actually have sex, it just feels like a chore, especially when I can’t make the other person finish quickly. After a few minutes I get so bored that my mind starts to wander off. I’m there physically, but not mentally.

When I’m in a relationship, I always care deeply about my partner, but I don’t really feel “in love” with them. I love them as a person, and I love taking care of them. But if we’ve been together for more than a month, I start getting annoyed and lose all attraction, even if they never did anything wrong.

One-night stands are the opposite. I get annoyed with the person very quickly and usually send them home right after sex Sometimes I don’t even look at people as actual people, I just see them as someone I want to have sex with.

I’m pretty sure I’m hypersexual, but I think I might also be asexual, aromantic, or even aroace.
(Or maybe I’m just a bad person.)

I’ve read a lot about these topics, but I still can’t figure myself out.

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u/Ok_Smile4460 — 10 days ago