Words mean different things to them.
It is hard to imagine for us, being someone with zero empathy. These are empathy disordered people. People who lack empathy.
So, for someone with no empathy, "love", looks like "ownership".
They watch people say they " love" their pets, or children, but if they can not feel empathy... it looks like ownership. They hear things like "I am yours", "or "that is MY girlfriend", from other people.
It's all abuse, and abuse is abuse is about control.
I read their sub sometimes, and they say things like... "they could leave me...so I abuse them". If they stay, this is "love". If they leave after being abused... what? That means they were "Abandoned".
No, it's about power and control.
It's all emotional abuse. I don't believe it is unintentional.
They lie like they breathe and are unreliable narrators, highly image consious. So keep that in mind while reading their excuses.
another thing thing I noticed, was that posts asking them what the most hurtful things someone could say or do to them.... the disordered described exactly how they treated others.
Well yeah, all those things hurt everybody.