did i fumble….
Haii~
Context:
A few months ago, I confessed that I liked her. She didn’t reject me, but she said she’d rather we get to know each other as friends first. Tama naman siya.
We’ve now been talking for about a few months. She’s admitted she isn’t big on texting in general. We don’t talk every day, which I actually prefer because I’d rather get to know someone in person than build a false sense of intimacy through constant texting.
Recently, she asked me to hang out.
The problem is… I was SO. fucking. shy.
I barely made eye contact because that’s what happens when I really like someone, and honestly I couldn’t think straight because I found her so pretty🥲. Bading na bading ako😩
I ended up letting her carry most of the conversation, which I feel EXTREMELY bad about because she’s more introverted than I am (?)
Ironically, during the conversation she mentioned things she likes in dating (e.g. preferring the other person to take the lead), but during our hangout she was the one taking initiative the whole time because I completely froze.
I know. I’m such a loser. :’)
The frustrating part is that once I’m comfortable, I’m actually pretty playful, talkative, and the type to tease someone I like. I also enjoy taking care of people. I also ask a looot of questions because I’m genuinely curious. It’s just that I hope she doesn’t find me prying? I just want to get to know her better.
It’s just that….I just couldn’t show that side of myself yet.
She reassured me naman pero i don’t know…
Logically, I should take it as it is. Emotionally, I can’t stop thinking I ruined my chances by being too quiet.
Questions:
If you were in her position, would someone being obviously nervous on a first one-on-one hangout be a turn-off? Or would you just assume they’ll open up with time?
Any advice to stop me from overthinking as well? hahaha
Also, I’d really like to ask her out next time. Assuming there is one 💔, any low-pressure date ideas that make conversation feel more natural?
Or maybe invite her to drink (chillnuman) so I’d be less nervous?
I was planning on building legos with her! Problem is… not quite sure if she’s okay with that. I just want her to have fun as well.