How do I actually have the big o?
I’m 21 years old, I’ve had a baby 4.5 months ago, and I’m married. I know a lot at a young age, but I’m happy. Only thing upsetting me is I don’t think I’ve ever had an orgasm.
I’ve used toys, my hands, obviously my husband, I’ve tried the shower head, pillows, and even textured condoms. Yes it all feels good, but I don’t feel a build up or a release as some people put it. There’s nothing physically wrong or different with me. Even prior to getting pregnant and giving birth. Only thing different now is I had a second degree tear that’s fully healed.
I have several toys, several dildos, a vibrator, bullet, one that is for both the clit and penetration, and I just ordered a rose toy. I’ve tried it feels like everything. Yes sex is enjoyable, and I do put on a show most of the time. I hate lying, but my husband also has anxiety about his performance. And his performance is great every time. I just don’t get fully there like he does.
No I’m not on any ssri’s, only thing I’m on is a blood pressure med since it runs in my family, and o got that unlucky gene. I guess if it matters we’re both each others first. We’ve done the foreplay, we’ve tried cuffs and ties, wax and flogging, even using toys during sex, and that feels amazing and I feel like I start to get right there but then it just goes away.
I’m asking for literally any help. Pls don’t judge.