found on r\AmITheAsshole || posted by u\AccurateInside2378 on 5-11-2026

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content warnings [spoilers]: >!car accidents, gaslighting!<

Verdict: >!Asshole!<

NOTE: I corrected OOP’s spelling mistake of “sushing” to “shushing”

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AITA FOR SHUSHING MY GF IN PUBLIC?

I was driving with my girlfriend in the passenger seat a few days ago. We were stuck at a busy intersection in traffic. There was a young woman trying to turn across traffic and she seemed hesitant even though there was a gap, so I waved her through.

Instead of going, she slowly crept forward and kind of froze. At that point another car was coming closer, so I waved more urgently and beeped my horn once to basically say “go now.” She finally went, but really slowly, and got T-boned by the oncoming car.

Nobody was seriously hurt thankfully, but both cars pulled over. I stayed because I have a dashcam and wanted to give the footage to the cops and the other driver.

While we were standing there waiting, my girlfriend suddenly said pretty loudly, “You did that on purpose.” She started arguing with me right there in front of everyone saying I pressured the girl into going when it wasn’t safe.

I immediately shushed her because from the outside it probably sounded like she was accusing me of intentionally causing the accident. I didn’t want the cops or drivers getting the wrong idea.

The driver passing through admited fault and was shaken up and crying but did not accuse me of anything and said she was a new driver.

Now she’s angry because she says I embarrassed and silenced her in public. She also brought up another incident from a few months ago where I waved someone through and there was another accident afterwards. She claims I “keep doing this to young women” specifically and that it’s messed up. I think that’s ridiculous because I wave people through all the time, including men, and I was genuinely trying to help traffic move along.

She thinks the shushing was disrespectful and controlling. I think accusing me of intentionally causing an accident in front of strangers was way worse. AITA?

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Relevant Comments

u\I-Screwed-Up-Bad: If you wave people through often you might want to take a look at the rules of the road. Ex. At a four way stop the person who stopped at their stop first goes first. It cause confusion, especially to new drivers, to deviate from the rules as written (although pending different laws for different states/countries. I've only driven in two states)

NTA for shushing, it doesn't help anyone to yell in public. But I wonder if you might be confusing people.

OP: It is not a 4 way, 2 way, my road had no stop

u\I-Screwed-Up-Bad(replying to OP): If your road had no stop no wonder she was confused! Don't do that dude... Just follow the rules of the road and don't confuse new drivers.

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u\forsoothia: INFO: do you have a dash cam channel? Have you put the videos these accidents online?

OP: I do, but I have not yet put this online.

Also I don't just share things from my own dashcam on there.

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OP(replying to a deleted comment): She tries to claim that I always intentionally lure and rush women into such situations and find it funny or something.

u\areyouserious2562(replying to OP): You do it for your channel for views and freaked out because you are partially at fault for multiple accidents and blamed your girlfriend for your ridiculous bullshit.

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u\VioletSkyeDreams: NTA. She should not have said that and she should be embarrassed for trying to get you into trouble. It was safe when you waived the driver to go she just didn’t go - and even if it wasn’t the driver would still be at fault.

I don’t know what she means by “you keep doing to young women”. I’d be asking because her behavior was unacceptable.

OP: She claims she has observed me intentionally attempt to rush young women when it is not clear and that I somehow find it funny or do it to generate content because I have a dashcam channel. And that supposedly if it were a man or older person, id have waved to stop instead.

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!!! REMINDER !!! This is a repost • I AM NOT OOP