u/OldMembership3000

How does AA affect families?.. I asked a guy if he was really going to commit to AA for the rest of his life, and he gave a very confident yes.

My other friend just had a baby, and I’m wondering how do men/women manage to make time for meetings when they start a family? I feel so bad for my friend having to spend more time taking care of their new baby by herself because her AA husband spends hours going to AA meetings and then meets with his sponsor/sponsees. My first thought was he needs to go home and help your exhausted wife!!

I asked the guy if his sobriety and AA will always come above his family, and he said yes.

Just wondering what’s everyone’s opinions about this? I was going to marry this guy who dedicated to going to AA for life, but I did not realize how much of an impact his requirement to go to meetings and also the fact that his sponsor would be involved/influential for major life decisions.

My ex who is an active member of AA broke up with me out of nowhere, and I’m trying to figure out what happened. My ex got a new sponsor a year ago, and I noticed that was around the time he had stopped apologizing and was less open about talking our relationship problems.

We had been together for 4 years, but for the last few months I had noticed he was spending a lot of time with his new sponsor, but I didnt think much of it. For context, his current sponsor is an older single guy still living with roommates, his previous sponsor is married with children and took AA principles less seriously.

But I’m looking at the attitudes in AA toward handling anger or resentment toward interpersonal relationships, and they seriously think the right thing to do is to do step work and let it go? Not even try to talk and repair with their partner about issues?

At a certain point, I think my ex had built up so much resentment toward me because he was not encouraged to repair like his last sponsor recommended. The new sponsor seems so avoidant of his own issues, the vibe I got from

him is that he’s just substituting “acceptable” activities like extreme exercise and AA instead of dealing with his emotional issues driving addiction.