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ATP, we know that Lal has her adorably charming and at the same time very impulsive way of doing things which could be considered downright stupid some times. But I think this is the stupidest thing she has ever done.

Spoiler Alert:

I think the STUPIDEST thing Lal HAS EVER DONE was to stand infront of Korn's car. Like I get it, it's an EV, a smart car per say, and it will stop infront of an obstacle. But GURL WHY TAKE SUCH A HUGE RISK?!?!

If, somehow the car didn't catch the signal and run you over? Bitch you'd be dead and your girlfriend would have been assaulted anyway!!!

You have a car, you know you could have stopped him by being inside your own vehicle, right? And your life wouldn't be in imminent danger, hello????

Khun Wine got a Knobhead for a partner 😂😂😂. A cute, charming, hot ass Knobhead, but a Knobhead indeed.

I think the reason Medsai asked Lal to join her for drinks, and got her flirting game up a notch was so that if something happens between them, she could later make another whistleblowing email stating Lal is a repeated offender of "dipping her pen in company ink", if you know what I mean 😏.

Had to pause to write it. The way she took control of that damn meeting! Ah, absolute goddess of a woman!

Post type 1: It's okay if they can't kiss. I still like them cause of all the other good things.

Post type 2: They're actors and are awkward ass kissers. They should know how to kiss, it's part of the chemistry routine lol.

😂😂😂

I wonder did they ever film it? If they didn't, what a shame.

If they did, GMMTV what are you doing??? Please post it asap. We have a man down here. Code blue.

One of the core aspects of being queer or being gay is self expression. Loving who I want to love. Being with whomever I want to be with. Thai BL/GL has done an astronomical good to closeted/out Asian queers who were searching for even a droplet of representation in popular media like Hollywood, K-Drama, C-Drama, and all.

Being someone new as a direct consumer of this media, I saw how much my queer friends loved watching Thai queer genre since the Inception of it's global popularity, it had the same essence of romance movies and series from our childhood but the characters were not straight. So it felt nostalgic, relatable, and refreshing. And in the crux of it, it really was still about self expression. We got to see a part of who we are, through the characters we watch in the show. We love them, and we love the actors who portray the characters.

What a fucking irony it is, that a genre that started off with the fundamentals of self expression, the fans of said genre are now dictating who the artists should date, who they should be friends with, who they should post pictures with, what their sexuality should be. How is it any different than a hegemonic heterosexual society wanting us to conform to their standards of being? And all this because they are fans? Because their dedication earns the production and the artists their "big" bucks? Well the artists work their ass off too, and they deserve the pennies they fucking earn man. Just because you're a fan doesn't mean you get to be disrespectful to the human dignity of the people you claim you love! That's why I still prefer Hollywood as an industry for the artists' interest, cause even though it's messed up over there too, still major artists get to have a sense of protection from such disrespect. The discourse is open and effective there. You ask a creepy question to Hannah Einbeinder and she'll call you out on it immediately without facing public backlash. You literally comment on Janhae 's post reprimanding her for taking pictures with male friends (how fucking ridiculous) and she'll still need to be very calculative about responding to that creepy ass comment cause it might effect her career and popularity. There was apparently one "fan" who literally went almost naked Infront of Faye in Brazil and how did she not get thrown out immediately? This level of sexualisation is downright harassment. Then fans asking the artists to twerk, reveal their body parts on stage during fanmeets - this really feels diabolical to me. Now you might say, "How is it any different from seductive moves done by the artists during a concert? Or even bandmates joining their heads intimately while playing music?" Well my guy, the artists did all those things willingly and it inadvertently made the fans feel something. The fans didn't get the artist to touch each other or do something seductive by request or straight up nagging sometimes.

Being queer is being comfortable in your skin, being comfortable with the people you want to surround yourself with and I feel like the Thai GL fandom is operating far away from this principle. They are doing the same comp-het societies pressured artists to do, just walking a line parallel to each other. Not opposite. Which is a shame.

I saw sooo many shows where the couple is doing the deed being in a bubble bath. I mean I get that the idea is sexy, but soap can get into very sensitive areas. So I don't think it makes sense.

Alexa, play "The Cure" by Olivia Rodrigo for Wine,

And "Less" by Olivia Rodrigo for Lal.

Just watched the first episode and saw a lot of bashing about the "Awkward kisses". I think there's a nuance that people are not considering. Runch and Neen's marriage is literally at a breaking point, it's falling apart. And ofcourse the kisses are gonna be awkward. Even in intimate fantasies there is going to be a distance and someone or the other is going to hold back even in your mind. I related to it cause that's what happen towards the end of my 3 year relationship. And we were deeply in love but still intimacy had it's awkwardness.

I have been following Thai GL for a few weeks now only, a new fan you could say and my YouTube feed is filled with JanJingjing posts. And I am sensing there's an expectation of fans for them to maintain a sense of romantic chemistry with one another to promote the show. Even the show creators sometimes influence both Jan and Jingjing to express romantic crush on one another (reaction videos, BTS scenes) and I am worried that it sometimes breaches professional and personal boundaries.

I remember both Jan and Jing's reaction to the first epi of EWB, and both of them looked quite terrified of how much the fans would tease them regarding the intimate scenes. Especially with the yoghurt scene, which I saw Jing needed to perform again due to fan requests. That made me concerned, not just for JanJingjing but for all the other popular GL/BL ships, as to how much are they expected to perform to please the fans and how invasive it can be. In Hollywood, the actors who play each other's romantic interest do show some level of chemistry during promotional events but it doesn't precede their personal lives. Again, I am new to this culture, and just recently learned about the concept of Khu-Jin (imagined couple). But I am genuinely worried about the Parasocial pressure that Thai actors/idols need to deal with and how it effects their mental health.

Jingjing Yu as Wine Vetaka is absolutely incredible. She portrays Wine's reserved nature, as well as her vulnerability and scarce silliness in a very natural way. I saw this interview of hers where she was sharing how being vulnerable on screen is difficult for her, due to her lack of experience in the acting field, and she might not be very good in acting cause she's so new. And after watching each episode of EWB, I'm like, "Woman what the hell are you talking about!" Her acting is so good she becomes Wine onscreen, not Jingjing. Woman gave an incredible performance as Lee Mhai too, in "Hello, Is this Luck?" (MuteLuv). The Lee Mhai character was interesting, sensual, sincere, vulnerable - and she brought out all these aspects in a very beautiful way. So far these are the only performances I have seen of her and she literally assimilated herself into both of these roles. I can't wait to see more of her work. I hope she gets the recognition and opportunities she deserves.

Also she is so gorgeous, I wanna cry.

Edit: Forgot to mention, her singing voice is very sweet. And she's a great performer too. She is just a very talented person.

Small update. The original post is here : https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/s/2E4jh92UnD

So I had a bit of emotional spiraling last night and I send my partner a few long messages (again) asking we need to talk and this silent treatment isn't really working for me and if she has outgrown the relationship she should just tell me. I feel like a loser cause I practically begged her again to communicate although in her defence she didn't ask me to beg her.

She sent a text this morning, "Let's talk tonight."

So we'll talk tonight. My stomach is doing somersaults right now. I have zero idea what she might say. There's a big possibility we might break up. I am just scared she might say some things that will make me feel even smaller or invalidate the connection we built for the past 3 years. Or it could be amicable. But let's see. For now I'll just focus on job.

I'll update later on what happens after the talk.

Sorry for such a long post, but I am in a really bad emotional state right now and would love to get some advice here. Also English is not my first language so apologies beforehand.

I (25F) and my partner "J" (21F) have been together for 3 years, and lived together for 2 of those years. We just had our 3 year anniversary 5 days ago (today is our first kiss anniversary). For the past 2.5 months we have been doing LDR. We met while studying abroad, my studies finished so I had to come back to my home country, and I'll be going there soon for my masters soon.

My partner and I had overall had a very sweet connected relationship. I had to often travel to my home country during sem breaks but even then we remained connected through texts, calls and all that.

But this time things were a bit different.

For the length of our LDR, my partner has been quite occupied with uni club activities, extracurricular projects, and her academics. The free time she gets usually she spends it with her friends. We didn't get to talk in private much cause she was either working in her friend's place (they made a co-working dynamic together) and the times we did get to talk, it was very short. We either had to go back to our respective work, or she would be so tired she'll fall asleep.

Her and her friends were planning a huge scale uni event, a bunch of universities were collabing together and it was quite taxing. During this time she almost went minimal contact with me. The thing is my partner has always been busy or occupied with a lot of taxing projects but nothing ever kept us from staying connected. And even in the midst of the event planning, I called our mutual friend group (the friend group she was working with) and I saw they are doing all sorts of fun things to let loose. They went drinking a few times, had late night hangout sessions often. But she rarely texted me or even replied to my texts. I texted her everyday, words of affirmation, asking her what she has been up to, yk trying to stay connected. She didn't address any of my texts, instead just sent me one "Babe" and then disappeared again.

So naturally I felt quite deprioritized. Like I get it her emotional needs are being met by her friends but I shouldn't be replaceable like that in her life, right?

So anyway, I had a bit of resentment building up and I sent her few long paragraphs a day after the event ended. The whole gist of it was, I feel invisible and I have mentioned it to her before, how, in small steps I can feel connected but she just never put an effort on that. This was 10 days ago. She saw the messages and then replied "I don't know what to say." I understood she might need some space so I acknowledged that and reassured her that when she feels like talking I'm here. Meanwhile we engaged in a bit of small talk here and there. It was pretty dry. A few days later I texted back I missed her and I know she needs space and when she wants to talk I'm here. She didn't respond to the message. Then our 3 year anniversary came. I texted "Happy Anniversary, *my nickname for her*" . And she replied "Happy Anniversary". No nickname. Meanwhile she went for a trip with her friends and then came back.

Yesterday I couldn't take the silent treatment anymore so I called her in the afternoon, she was on her way to another girls trip with her girlfriends. I was hearing her voice after 2 weeks but honestly she didn't sound like my partner. She didn't have the mirth in her voice, the happiness to hear me after so long, the way she used to. Instead she sounded so nonchalant, as though it didn't matter to her if I didn't call. It felt like like I was talking to a failed situationship and I was the clingy one, not to my partner of 3 years. During the call she just invalidated me and laughed at my face when I was telling her my concerns and asking her if she still wants the relationship. She laughed and said, "You're the one bringing it up." I asked her what did she feel after reading my long messages, her response was she didn't like the way wrote it, and she didn't understand what I was saying. I explained a few times again, I felt invisible and deprioritized in her life. I couldn't guage where she was in the relationship and honestly she just sounded like she just didn't care. I asked her if she didn't understand what I was saying in the messages, why didn't she ask me follow up questions. She said, she didn't wanna talk to me. I said how would I know she didn't wanna talk to me if she didn't communicate that. She insisted a few times that she did and then later corrected herself, "Oh yeah I told *A* (her best friend)", and then laughed again. Mind you I was crying in the call. Although it was a voice call and she didn't see me crying but she might've heard it, idk.

So that's where we ended the call, I was very very upset. And then the night rolled and I was just tired of fighting with her. And I was in the balcony and I saw the biggest shining moon in the sky and it reminded me of her (she loves the moon). So I extended my white flag, saying that our conversation was not the best today and can we just reconnect? And we can talk about the stuff later, I just miss her. And I sent her the picture of the moon. This morning her reply came.

"Morning."

"Wow (reply to the picture of the moon)."

That's it.

I am tired of extending the olive branch. But we had a very loving relationship where we genuinely pushed each other to be our best version. And she's my best friend and I haven't spoken to her properly for 2 weeks. I seriously don't know what to do.

Thoughts?