u/OneClient2575

Do some deployments really go home on time?

I’m just so over it.

Homecoming is supposed to be this month. Instead, they extended it another three months. What’s frustrating is that this isn’t the first time. Last deployment was supposed to be six months… it turned into nine.

I understand how the military works. Missions change. Timelines shift. Nothing is ever truly guaranteed. I know all of that.

But what I don’t understand is why they give families these return dates when they so often end up changing. Sometimes I wish they’d just say, “Plan for a year,” and if they get to come home early, then it’s a wonderful surprise. Instead, you spend months counting down to a date, letting yourself believe it’s finally almost over, only to have that finish line moved again.

You get a timeline and you tell yourself not to get your hopes up. But there’s always that tiny sliver of hope that maybe, just maybe, this time they’ll actually come home when they said they would.

And when that hope gets crushed… it hurts every single time. And especially for the kids.

Disappointed, but not surprised. Just so effin over it.

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u/OneClient2575 — 4 days ago

Jealous

Im not sure if this is the right word for it but i am feeling really jealous of my husband who is deployed right now.

He got short notice deployment last month and i was devastated at first especially with the current global landscape. Fortunately he got deployed in Europe so its non hostile/combat.

He and his team are now fully settled in. And have their schedule/shifts in place. They would get 2-3 days off and they would usually go out and explore Europe with how close the countries are in there with their bullet trains.

I am happy they are having a good time which is very well deserved. But also cant help but feel a little jealous.

They are not in a barracks and is staying in the hotel on base. They get to travel and sleep in and be comfortable on their days off.

Meanwhile, i am taking care of the kids, still working full time and left to manage everything at home.

We would talk/facetime and he would be in bed comfortable while I make dinner, or have a clingy child climbing all over me. I have to do bedtime, while he walks leisurely and goes to the gym.

Im feeling horrible for feeling this way. I want to be supportive and mature but I cant help but just feel a tad bit jealous of the life he is living right now.

I love our kids and love taking care of them, i love my husband and glad he is safe. Im just having a little pity party for myself apparently and I cant help it. I just needed to vent.

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u/OneClient2575 — 2 months ago