Right person, wrong time?
I spoke to a man on and off for about five months. The first month was amazing. We got on so well, and I genuinely thought he could be the one.
A couple of months in, he got a job abroad. I asked why he wouldn’t try long distance or explore a future with me, but he said he knew himself and couldn’t do long distance.
Even knowing it had an expiry date, we kept seeing each other until he left. After he moved, I was the one reaching out, so eventually I stopped and moved on.
Months later, I happened to be in his city and we met again. Afterwards, I asked for honest closure. He said compatibility wasn’t the issue. He thought we had great chemistry, there were no red flags, and if he had stayed in our home country, he would have tried to marry me. He described us as “the right person, wrong time,” saying the distance and his stage of life made him feel it wouldn’t end in marriage.
What I struggle with is that he never really explored the possibility of a future. He never asked if I’d consider moving or what I actually wanted.
Alhamdulillah, I accept it’s Qadr Allah, but it left me wondering:
Am I wrong for believing that if someone truly wants you, they’ll do everything they can to make it work?
Do you think “right person, wrong time” is real, or is the right person simply the one who chooses you despite difficult circumstances?