How to tell people you meet IRL that you are married while letting them know you are open to more?
I (32F) and hubby (43M) are currently opening ourselves up to inviting others into our bedroom together.
We live in a small town and enjoy going to electronica parties. There is a woman that we have seen a few times at these parties, I have had a few light interactions with her on the dance floor, and my husband has already expressed to me in the past that he feels attracted to her, although they only properly met for the first time this weekend.
I gave my husband the green light to approach her further, and towards the end of the evening they were chatting over a cigarette and I joined after a few minutes.
At one point during our conversation, she asks me “so are you two together or are you friends…?” She was definitely trying to ask me what was up because im guessing that she felt a “vibe” from him and was confused about where we stood because I’m sure she has seen us around together and we are pretty hot and heavy with each other lol so asking if he was my “friend”
was kind of funny.
Anyways, I responded that actually, we are married.
“MARRIED?!?!??”
She said basically with her jaw on the floor lol. She is probably between us in age so it’s not like she was super young, but it’s true that not a lot of married couples still go out to raves together so it might seem surprising to meet a married couple partying til sunrise lolol.
Anyways, telling her we were married was like automatically closing the door in her mind, thinking we are together and that’s that, potentially imagining that my husband was being inappropriate or perhaps that she was imagining it . It didn’t end badly or anything, the rest of our convo was sill very pleasant and good vibes, but the shock when she heard we were married was very real lol.
My question is: how can we tell people we meet out in the woukd and are potentially interested in that we are married while still giving them the idea that we are open for more? Obviously would want to keep it light and playful and not get into some deep conversation or make a potential 3rd feel like we are suddenly putting them on the spot…but would like to find a way to tell people we are together but not making it seem like we are completely off the menu???