u/Open-Operation-9104

Hello all! I’m a new res life professional (going on one year full time). I came out in college, and I am not ashamed of who I am. Today I had a first year student call and say they need a new roommate. When I asked why because we needed more info, this student said because his assigned roommate is gay and he cannot live with a gay person.

I explained to the student we aren’t doing swaps at this time and that we can revisit later. But, I still found myself like personally upset. How can you have the nerve to call and say you can’t live with a gay person? It’s just like living with anyone else!

I’m just curious if any other queer folks in res life/student affairs have any tips for navigating homophobia among students and how to handle it personally? I dealt with a lot of homophobia in college and I hate to see others deal with it too.

Heyy all! My mom is coming to visit from Ohio in a few weeks, and I’m trying to think of things to take her to do. I live in sixteen acres so I’m happy to travel just about anywhere!

Thanks in advance for suggestions! :)

Hey All! I just need to vent for a second.

I am a residence director and I’m almost at a full year at my institution. I oversee our first year area, and work exclusively with first year students. (Approx. 650 students, four buildings.)

I have this coworker, she’s been here like 3-4 years. She really knows the campus. But. She does this thing where anytime we are doing something together and anyone asks something about my buildings or my residents she will cut me off to answer them first. She never lets me speak about my area. For example, we were giving tours of our areas to the Student Accommodation office. After we finished her two buildings, it was time to move on to mine. Instead of doing that, she stood outside of the first building and just started trying to speed run all of the information before I could. I politely interrupted and said, “I think I can talk about my buildings. Thank you.”

Additionally, whenever someone asks about first year housing she always tries to get to answer it first. I usually introduce myself as overseeing the first years and she always does this thing where she goes, “well I actually oversee all four class levels.” She literally has maybe 50ish first year residents in her building as overflow.

We are also offering tours of my buildings for SOAR. My boss wants me to do them given it’s my area and I can answer the questions, and she is so pressed about it. She wants to do it so bad.

I’ll stop complaining, you all get the gist. I get she’s been here a long time, but damn back off. I don’t do that to you, don’t do it to me.