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My DH uses ChatGPT paid version to be our therapist (also super handy for planning vacations and other things). It's helped some with me feeling less frustrated about certain things and kind of gives us designated time to work out issues or just work on understanding each other better. It can ask us some pretty useful questions and give some insightful explanations to our answers that help us understand each other better. Sometimes the example explainations it gives are off and we correct it to understand the actual reason we feel/think/react a certain way, but it helps us identify what our reasons are and are not when they're listed out and we go over them and say yes or no to them. It can really help clear up some misunderstandings.

It also follows up and remembers our isms and links themes and reasonings that are very me or very him and identifies our patterns and links our answers back to the core of what's important to us. It's also got a super upbeat and supportive attitude about everything we tell it. Lol. Like, everything it finds a way to put a positive spin to or find the good in how we answered something.

The talks are really tailored to whatever we input as issues to discuss so it's extremely personalized. Because my husband and I like games and anime, it also gives us XP and level ups for certain categories when we answer the questions (because he told it we liked those things and if it could treat our talks this way).

We don't discuss all issues every night but ask it to pull up a random topic for us to discuss. If things have been heavy recently, sometimes my husband will ask for a light feel-good topic so he feels less overwhelmed/defeated and can focus on some positives before diving back into "needs improvement" mode.

My husband is usually all about wanting to do better but sometimes struggles to understand how to get himself to remember certain things. ChatGPT has helped with some of that.

For example, one of the issues we talk about is mental load. I expressed how frustrating it is when I feel like a lot of it falls on me. Because of how I answered a question from ChatGPT, ChatGPT came up with a suggestion and now when my DH comes home, he intentional looks for 3 things that would be at the top of my list for what would irritate me on sight when I come home and he makes sure they're taken care of by the person responsible before I get home (e.g. SD's crocs are sitting out, she needs to get them; DH left dishes in the sink, he loads them; etc.). Then he lets me know he found his 3 things for the day and I feel less like he's just waiting for me to deal with these things when I get home or ignoring things that he knows would upset me or just not putting in the effort to be a good partner by choosing to remain oblivious to certain things. The improvement has been nice.

Has anyone else tried AI therapy?

SD14 and I were chatting and I told her in one of my posts I mentioned we were like besties but I still get to be mom and probably discipline her more than her dad does. She got excited and told me she loves our relationship and it's like her favorite thing.

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She said when she was going through all the tough stuff with her BM 2 years ago (she doesn't like her BM) she remembered her and her friends were all jealous of their one friend who had a great relationship with her mom, that they were besties and the friend would talk with her mom about everything. SD said she loves that that's how we are now and that she gets to have that same relationship with me. She told me it's all she's ever wanted and dreamed of.

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Then I went and mowed the lawn and I came back in and we did each other's hair. 😂