My (adult) teenage son recently shared with me that he hates his penis.
He is uncircumcised, hates the sensitivity, touching it, I assume only rarely masturbates, finds erections to be painful and embarrassing and hates the general aesthetics.
He has only recently become comfortable enough to have practical conversations with me about his feelings surrounding his anatomy and I'd like to understand how to help him feel more comfortable in his own body.
I'm not terribly surprised to learn this as he has general sensory issues and is on the spectrum. I have wondered if he might be ace, but it's hard to tell what's a product of sensory and social issues vs natural inclinations. He doesn't seem to be experiencing gender dysphoria, he just sorta "hates" having genitals.
When he was younger I would give him the general advice on how to gently pull back, clean and dry his foreskin, but at a certain age he would clearly be uncomfortable talking about his body with his mom so I backed off and since he is very clean I assumed hormones and showering would work all of that out naturally. Yet here we are.
I have a general knowledge of phimosis, and I have known people with wildly different experiences of being uncircumcised. It seems like he's experiencing the negative end of that spectrum. I want to be respectful of his autonomy, but give him some easy practical advice to start with, with the goal of him having a better relationship with his body. He would be hesitant to see a doctor about this, and he's not the sort of person that will go on reddit and research himself. Talking to me about this at all let's me know it's an issue, and he's very private so the more practical and efficient, with the fewest people knowing, the better.