r/uncircumcised_talk

My newborn son’s foreskin doesn’t fully cover the penis head, only about 80%. It is also easily retractable at birth and sometimes retracts on its own in his diaper from his movement.

At our 2 day appt they had him see a pediatrician who said in 30 years they’ve never seen this before but it’s likely nothing to worry about.

I’m a little shocked, is this that uncommon? Does anyone have a similar experience? We are first time parents over worrying about many things and this has spooked us a bit. We hope he is ok.

American guys on scale of 1-10 how insecure or self-conscious were you about being uncircumcised growing up?

Not whether or not ur happy with being uncircumcised/intact, just how insecure or self-conscious you were about it when u were younger bcuz you can be happy about being uncut but also insecure/self-conscious about it.

Also feel free to say what State ur from.

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I know this is one of those questions that, I’m don’t have any intact friends to ask.

When i was young teen, maybe 12-13. I was signing up for sport, which required a physical. During the physical I remember doing the turn and cough. Everything was find, nothing herniated. The doctor also lifted my penis pushed the foreskin back, checked real quick and then moved it back in place (sorta).

I never really questioned it as i assumed he was making sure it had fully detached from the head, and was loose enough to be mobile.
Iv never had this happen at a physical again, granted since then iv never had my manhoodie examined nor the downstairs neighbors.

Is that a normal part of just having an exam and being intact as a child? I mean it’s fine, it makes sense for checking proper sexual development, and health.
Just, don’t know how many other people have had that?

As the title suggests, I seem to be experiencing slight pain because my foreskin feels tight. Throughout my life, I had never pulled my foreskin back completely.

I recently visited a urologist, who examined me and suddenly pulled my foreskin back without any difficulty. I didn't feel any pain at all. He even retracted it further and asked me what the problem was. In my mind, I was thinking, "I've struggled to pull my foreskin back all these years, but you were able to do it so easily!"

I explained to him that I experience slight pain during sexual intercourse. He asked me whether I experienced any pain while urinating or had noticed any tears or bleeding during intercourse. I said no, and he replied, "You're good to go. Don't overthink this; otherwise, you might have difficulty getting an erection because of your anxiety."

I then asked him what I should do if my foreskin tears. He told me to apply pressure for 30–45 minutes to stop the bleeding and come back the next day for a check-up.

I also asked him what would happen if my foreskin got stuck behind the head of my penis and I couldn't pull it forward again. He said that I should manually pull it forward to return it to its normal position.

At that moment, I felt relieved because I thought I didn't have phimosis or any other problem. However, whenever I have s*x end up worrying about the possibility of my foreskin getting stuck behind the head of my penis and causing paraphimosis.

I'm genuinely afraid that this might happen to me. When I Googled it, I read that if the foreskin gets stuck behind the head of the penis, it can restrict blood flow and requires immediate medical attention. Reading this made me even more anxious.
Even though my urologist reassured me, I still can't stop worrying about it during sex. I'm afraid that something might go wrong, and this fear is making it difficult for me to relax and enjoy the experience.

I never thought that I would’ve have to talk about it like this. The story of how i found my phimosis in a embarrassing way possible. Hello everyone, Im a 20 yo guy. This post is more like a confession and to get some advices. Im an asian guy w a somewhat small penis. Im really insecure and i do overthink about it alot. Im a virgin. I have a gf 21F she had been physical w her ex for over a year and half idk how many times they have done it. The thought of it bothers me till this day. As a virgin and small penis guy i really overthink and am insecure about alot of things. One day i asked her “was his penis bigger than mine?” She hesitated to answer that so i asked “okay was it like really really bigger than mine vastly?” She hesitated more so i knew my answer i got really insecure ever since that day. We even argued over it. She does reassures me saying that “it has nothing to do with her” “she doesn’t really care about those stuffs“ “she loves me as a person” etc. But deep down ik it does matters it bothers me alot i got more open abt it w her then she suggested we should get physical and see how it goes i got tempted and said yes ofc. So yeah as we started getting physical it was feeling really good i was getting turned on and getting super erected. And when it was finally time for me to put it in i got soft no matter how much i tried i wasn’t getting hard at all so we just brushed it off and waited till night… sane thing happened again and she gave me a bj so yeah i got hard again and she suggested me to put it in right away i was super excited and nervous abt it knowing that im finally being able to do it.
And then BOOM my foreskin slipped back as i tried to put it in and the foreskin got stuck behind my tip it hurted alot i barely even get to put it inside. Yet i still tried it kept hurting and the foreskin kept getting stuck . I really had a hard time. I told her it hurts when i try to put it in she sounded a lil sad and disappointed. I was really embarrassed i lay down and told her “im sorry I didn’t know something like this would happen i never knew abt this im really sorry for ruining the mood” as i said that i alrdy started overthinking abt her past sex life and started comparing it. Yet she was really being supportive of it and told me “that its okay it was ur first time neither of us knew that this will happen dont overthink and feel insecure abt this” yet till this day i can’t get over that and everytime i watch porn or try to jerk off by myself i rethink abt that day and regret not finding it out sooner that i had a phimosis.
Yes it was really embarrassing its not just once, we tried 2-3 times but everytime it hurted more and more to the point she got worried as well.

So, this was my embarrassing story of my 1st sex experience with phimosis. Till that day I’ve become more insecure and started overthinking alot more than before. Ik its her past it shouldn’t bother me if i love her,Ik and im working on it as well. But the feelings doesn’t seem to go away. Idk what to do anymore!

Please help me. How to get rid of this feelings? How do i stop thinking abt it? I wanna cure my phimosis without getting circumcised how do i do that? What kind of doctor should i visit or what kind of exercises do i need to do? Im from nepal and the place where i live I’ve never really seen ppls talking abt these stuffs so i have no idea what where how. I’d some research i saw those stretching rings idek where do i buy that how do i ask for it ? Anyone out there reading this please help me.
Ik my English isn’t that good either so forgive me for that.

I am 20 years old and recently I came to know that I have phimosis ik I am stupid I should have discovered this earlier but what should I do now in erect state very little top part of penis is visible any advise I dont want circumcision