r/uncircumcised_talk

I’m not really sure how to describe it but I got a darker area on my foreskin that goes around it Js on a specific area not anywhere else on it. I would say it is hyperpigmentation but the way it looks doesn’t seem like it is. Never seen hyperpigmentation like this. It looks darker and the specific area feels a bit rougher than the rest of the foreskin not by much tho. And also looks like it’s kinda cracked but it isn’t. That’s the best way I can describe it. I’ve had it for as long as I can remember. I wanna know what it is and if there’s a way to fix it somehow. Anything helps thanks.

There is a lot of talk about this topic. It is especially prevalent in culture where cutting is the norm like the US or Islamic or Jewish countries. I live in Australia - it was a cutting culture but is no longer one.

What is evident is the ignorance surrounding the intact penis and how the "cultural norm" prevails in many cultures or countries. Many men are shamed into feeling "inappropriate, ungrateful or inadequate" if they express a regret at being cut as a child without choice. There are many studies now pointing to the harms of "non-consensual, medically unnecessary genital cutting".

There is nothing wrong with being cut or uncut (or intact as I prefer to call it) as long as it is your choice. What often happens is that choice is denied and a decision is made along cultural, familial or religious preferences while denying the individual the right to make an informed decision later. That's where the harm sets in. It is in the denial of choice.

This is a sub about being uncircumcised. If that's like me (I wasn't given the choice, but I restored as best I could) or you are intact - let us shout to the world the benefits of foreskin. My mental health is 150% better for what I have painstakingly undertaken for over 10 years to feel "normal" naked once more.

If you're in a culture in which you are being bullied for being "normal" we want to support you. We love being UNCIRMCUMCISED!

And if you want to help promote the benefits of being "uncircumcised" (which I always find weird as it implies being circumcised is normal) then send me a chat and help me moderate.

I love my restored foreskin and how it makes me feel whole again. #foreskinforthewin

I’m in my late 20s and have a mild form of phimosis. I can retract the foreskin but it hurts when it’s below the glans. My GP suggested getting circumcised. To me it’s something I’ve been thinking about as well for years. I also find a circumcised penis more appealing than an uncut one. The only thing I’m unsure about is the loss of sensation. Given the position of my frenulum this would have to be removed too. Are there others here who had it done in similar context?

Maybe it has to do with the fact I masturbate too much

btw I never touch the pink head skin during masturbation and always rely on pushing and pulling the skin before the foreskin to make the foresking move up and down

And don't have phimosis, so can up and down the foreskin very comfortably

Just wanted to make this post to those who may be embarrassed or stressed and are too shy or anxious to make a post or publicly post themselves (hope this is allowed)

Anyone with any questions or concerns about their phimosis can dm me directly and do my best to help just dm me with your situation.

I need more moderators to assist. Preferrably you live in the Americas or Europe. I am in Australia - I need a mod in each of those areas. Send me a chat if that interests you. The sub is at risk as I am time poor but want to continue with this great sub.

I actually don't fell anything specially on my ridged band or my frenulum , why?

I got my frenuplasty surgery done yesterday but my skin is still not retracting and i am stressed it didn’t get errect properly too i still have the stiches what should i do?

I'm 23 and have had normal, painless masturbation for ~9 years. Over the last couple of months, I've started getting small tears in my foreskin. It heals after a few days, but then tears again.

Today it tore badly during masturbation (when I pulled it back, it felt like it was sticky and the foreskin was attached to the glans using an adhesive) and bled from several visible cracks (bled profusely and it stung when I splashed water on it). It was very painful initially, but the pain has now mostly settled. The foreskin is currently covering the glans, I can retract it when flaccid, and I can urinate normally.

I am very scared and don't know what's causing this

Hi all.

Context (for others to know):

I'm 37, male, Melbourne - Australia. Pretty healthy both in weight and medically. (More context can be provided if asked)

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Situation:

I have on/off situations of fungal jock itch (ie groin, testicular skin and etc) - which topical fungal creams recommended by the doctor sometimes helps address in the short term, but seems to constantly come back.

Because of this it appears I've developed mild Phimosis of the foreskin, where I can fully pull back but when I do so you can see the foreskin bowing inwards and creating some discomfort dye to tightness.

When flaccid my foreskin used to fully cover my urethral opening, but now the foreskin only covers just above the urethral opening and leaving the urethral opening exposed. Probably exacerbating some inflammation of the urethra opening etc.

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My current aim is to the current issues:

- Address a longer term solution to my ongoing bouts of fungal jock itch

- regain elasticity and coverage of my foreskin

- have the urethral inflammation be settled and the "lips" appearance gone. (Alot of guys seem to have this too, and wonder if its related to the fungal factors?)

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I'm interested to hear from others on what treatments and products they've found work well to:

- regain more skin elasticity of the foreskin- I've see there's Novoglan foreskin conditioning cream - but expensive but specific for this)

- regain more foreskin coverage - I've seen they sell foreskin stretching rings kit for phimosis online (used in conjunction with cream). And/or also daily foreskin stretching techniques? Links and a stretching routine you have done?

- Medications that work to address fungal jock itch - ie longer term. Be it tablets or creams etc?

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Appreciate your constructive help. 🙏🫶

Would love some help identifying what it is called and how it developed.

I’ve had it for as long as I can remember. Now 41. I’ve asked a couple of doctors and they all said it’s normal but never said what it is.

I can dm picture

I’m 16 and I have phimosis. My doctor has already prescribed me multiple creams to try to help with it, but unfortunately none of them worked, so I’m wondering if circumcision might be the next option for me. I still can’t fully retract my foreskin, and I’d like to hear from other people who had phimosis as teenagers and went through something similar. Did circumcision end up being worth it for you, or were there other treatments that worked after creams didn’t? I’m planning to talk with my doctor before making any decision, but I’d really appreciate hearing about other people’s experiences, especially with what they tried before surgery and what recovery was like.

This place doesn't seem well monitored. While I don't want to volunteer, the pro-circumcision posts and comments need to stop. There is other subreddits for that and it's not here with those that are uncircumcised and enjoy being or those that are cut and not pushing an agenda.

u/c0c511 being the only one is insane for a sub with 23k weekly visits.

Hey I’m a 14 m and I know this group thing on Reddit probably gets it a lot but i have phimosis and it’s so bad I can’t even see my head.I was thinking should I go to the doctors to get it cut but I’m too scared to tell my parents.Also I have heard that you can get it partly cut so you still have foreskin so should I get that or full circumcision.One last thing I am very scared that people will call me names because of it for example (not being racist) a jew.

So my friend plan to have circumcised for his son that currently 12 years old, not because of religion reasons. I told him to let his son decide for his own body part.

Seems like a lot of people like it, and even are very curious about it in a positive sense. We've posted on reddit for a while now, and have rarely had negative experiences or mean comments regarding me being uncut. Just wanted to share and spread some positive energy :)

I'm sorry about the posters here who have suffered bullying and rejection growing up and as an uncut adult. I have been lucky in my lifetime experience with having my foreskin. I come from a family where all the men were uncircumcised and m and f openly discussed it. As I grew up, perhaps it was my attitude of pride in having my foreskin but I experienced virtually no rejection with all my girls and women sex partners. In fact, I continue to love introducing them to the joys of sex with a large penis with a fairly long and mobile foreskin. In my very sexually active life, I have converted several girls and women to favoring uncut men and even to being addicted to foreskin. I've lost track of how many times I have been told how great my cock feels, how different it is from cut men and how much fun it is to play with.

In summers I spend a certain amount of time on nude beaches. Every once in a while a couple, in the midst of other small talk, will ask me about my foreskin and how it works. More often it is the guy asking because he says his partner wants to know. This happened just last week and ended in a demonstration in the dunes.

Hi everyone, I'm knew to this sub and thought I would share my personal experience so that both uncircumcised men as well as men undergoing foreskin restoration, can read my own experience and some may find this perspective interesting or maybe some men feel this is helpful at improving their sex life

So I was circumcised as an infant for non-religious reasons and definitely understand the controversy and why some men feel very upset about this.

Brief Backstory on Learning about anti-circumucision and foreskin restoration

When I was very young, I was exposed to an anti-circumucision documentary and literature. I became very emotionally disturbed over the idea that when I got older, I would have difficulty enjoying sex and that women would view me as "mutilated" (basing this on what I watched and read aside from the growing anti-circumucision community). While I don't regret the knowledge I learned; I feel that I was way too young to watch the documentary and read the literature. First, it's devastating to have the belief that most, if not all women would view me as genitally mutilated when I became an adult as well to hold the view that most, if not all women would feel that I'm incapable of deeply enjoying sex and sexual sensations even if I did experience a lot of pleasurable sensations in adulthood. I also lived in a highly Mexican-American region of the U.S (I'm non Hispanic, white) and was aware of circumcision being uncommon in Latin culture and this translated into believing that if I became physically intimate with a Latina woman, she would definitely view me as mutilated and basically trivialize any sexual pleasure I experienced as being "dull, innacurate" or "just a cope" besides the fact that I saw on that documentary, they interviewed an American women who said that sex with her circumcised boyfriend didn't feel good duecl to him being circumcised. (To my surprise I later on as an adult had sexual experiences with very Latin women who did not view me as mutilated, enjoyed sex with me, and I was shocked that some of them either never heard of the negative effects circumcision had on sexual experiences and were either neutral about their partner's circumcision status or actually liked my penis the way it is circumcised, but that part is talked about later in this post)

I did understand before I had sex, thankfully and due to what I read on a forum, that especially in a romantic relationship that it's unlikely a woman would reject me just because I was circumcised. Still, due to my EXTREMELY young age, I failed to understand the diversity of perspectives and beliefs people have about sex and when you're that young, believing that when you get older, you will miss out on good sex and hate your own penis, and have women that view you as mutilated and discredit you IF you do enjoy sex, was especially disturbing to feel that way when you haven't even hit puberty yet.

I eventually had to get psychologically counseled and once again seek counseling when I became 18, due to the obsessive and devastating views I just previously mentioned as a result of getting introduced to anti-circumucision literature and documentary when I wasn't anywhere close to being emotionally developed or capable of critical thinking and not seeing everything in black and white. (I can later discuss the opinion of professional psychologists who happened to be uncirculated, from other cultural backgrounds, and tried to de-condition me from the counter-productive beliefs I held

Now onto Foreskin Restoration

As I got older, after reading about manual foreskin restoration, I would do light "tugging exercises". I still had enough outer skin and inner foreskin remnant where I could tug the remaining skin over the glans. During erection, the only extent of skin mobility I had was to move the remaining skin to touch the corona edge of the glans and if I bent my body forward to make my erection shorter , I could then move the skin on top of the corona edge of the glans

During this time I experienced masturbation, I would use lubricant instead of attempting to move the skin, and it felt intensely pleasurable. However, this wasn't enough to make me stop obsessing about about being circumcised and how women would view it once I had sex

How my Sex Life got better and Therapy Helped

In my early 20's I first decided to get in great shape with jogging. I noticed that my libido and self-esteem gradually increased as I got into a regular exercise routine. I also found a very intelligent professional psychologist who was able to give me a more objective perspective. He was uncut by the way and actually had studied medicine in a Latin American country he was born in and spent most of his time living in.

He first explained to me that regardless of reality, he told me that the anti-circumucision documentary and literature I read and watched before I even hit puberty, resulted (in my case) psychological trauma and that what I read and watched wasn't intended to be for a child and that I had been too young to process that and didn't even have life experience to get a more balanced perspective. He also told me that a person's psychological state is extremely relevant to their sexual functioning and directly ties into the neurobiology of sexual functioning in both psychological emotional and physical arousal as well as orgasm.

In his perspective, my psychological state had a much more prominent influence on my current and future sexual experience and well-being than any reduction in nerve endings and sensitivity for me from having been circumcised.

We also discussed different assessments of my sexual functioning. For one thing, during masturbation my penis felt very sensitive and I personally experienced enough erogenous sensation that I was able to reliably achieve ejaculation and experience intense orgasms and I had enough sensitivity that I was able to enjoy the full process of masturbation, foreplay, and sex before achieving ejaculatory orgasm. Despite that, due "to the way my mind was molded from such a young age" none of these healthy, positive sexual experiences reduced obsessive doubt; I was the one devaluing my sexual pleasure and trying to compare myself to uncircumcised men and basically can't consider my sexual pleasure as lacking and trivial compared to uncircumcised men instead of acknowledging and appreciating the self-obvious intense erogenous sensation and ejaculatory pleasure I have

He also explained to me, that it's unlikely the average woman would be thinking that I'm not really feeling sexual pleasure like I should during physical intimacy. He said that if I did meet a woman who had those negative feelings about my penis that I was worried about; all I have to do is find a different woman that likes my body the way it is.

In his opinion, unless I decided to hook up with a woman that was very involved in the intactivist movement, me during circumcised isn't usually something that would be on her mind

Now he did say he believes neonatal circumcision is unnecessary which I already agreed with him and he also mentioned even when I'm with a woman, say I have a girlfriend that would not circumcise her future son, that doesn't mean she feels negatively about my penis or that she would view me as having a sexual deficiency or consider me mutilated and he argued I should not date a woman who considers me a victim of mutilation, trivializes positive sexual feelings I have or wants me to change my penis

Therapy made me realize that part of the reason I was attempting manual foreskin restoration was because I wanted to hide my circumcision status from potentially having a partner that disrespects my body

Positive Experiences with Women

After continuing to get in shape, and taking my therapists advice to stop surrounding myself in an echo chamber of forums of men who dislike their penis and being exposed to a biased selection of men who browse foreskin restoration or circumcision grief forums, who may have body dysmorphia (a real or imagined negative perspective on a body part causing psychological distress and obsession),

I began to stop seeing my penis as lacking and instead began to not only appreciate very intense pleasure I experience but also experienced a greater increase in my sexual functioning

I also dated women. Some of whom were neutral about circumcision, some who preferred circumcised partners even if it isn't a norm in their culture. I didn't do anything weird like talk about my penis in a date or before we got emotionally intimate or vulnerable with each other by the way nor did I repeatedly talk about this and created the impression I had a deep insecurity that would keep coming up in the relationship

I also was able to satisfy my partners without an issue

Now after my 20's, I am in my longest relationship with a beautiful and friendly woman from Venezuela and she has an amazing personality. One time when we're being emotionally vulnerable with each other and I told her about my concern I used to have about being circumcised, she told me I was only the second circumcised man she had been with and that most of her partners had been uncircumcised.

Her viewpoint? She doesn't consider circumcision status a major thing to think about in either casual sex or a relationship. However she did tell me, that she later on developed a personal preference for circumcised penises because the uncircumcised men she had personally been with didn't shower too well and without going into too much detail it detracted from the sexual experience which she understands was more of a hygiene issue. She also had a boyfriend that would repeatedly try to treat phimosis and the creams and stretching never seemed to help and due to pain he experienced, he couldn't keep a steady rhythm during sex.

Now as far as penetration goes, her experience is that both types of penises feel exactly the same during sex and she felt like men who claimed one was better or worse during sex, didn't understand female anatomy and thought the inside of the vagina was sensitive to the point of feeling if there was skin there or not. In her opinion, she doesn't feel like there's any difference in friction from sex despite the rolling gliding action of the foreskin, it feels the same to her. She lubricates adequately during sex and doesn't feel pain friction from her experiences with uncircumcised, circumcised, or dildoss

What she likes about my penis is the appearance and says that compared to the last guy she was with, she likes that she sees the glans when im aroused and she doesn't have to roll the skin back (last guy had a long foreskin, he also didn't regularly wash which was his problem obviously even when she told him he has to go wash because he developed a bad odor and didn't like to give him oral).

Now some of this I'm watering down for the forum

Long story short I have a very enjoyable sex life with my long term girlfriend and not only did I learn to like my body by unlearning to hate it, but I have a girlfriend that genuinely likes my penis haha

Regardless of your circumcision status, develop a healthy appreciation of your body, savor your pleasure, and find a woman that really likes your penis the way it is

I have had skin issues my entire life. Ichthyosis since birth which means my skin is dry and flaky everywhere. Eczema as a kid. Psoriasis for the last ten years. My skin has never known what normal feels like. But one of the most uncomfortable things I ever dealt with was phimosis and it is something men almost never talk about.

For anyone who does not know phimosis is when the foreskin is too tight to pull back comfortably. It can make cleaning difficult and it can make things painful. Now combine that with skin that is already dry cracked and irritated from a lifelong skin condition. It was a nightmare. The dryness made the tightness worse. The tightness made the dryness more painful. It felt like a problem I could not escape and I was way too embarrassed to bring it up to anyone for a long time.

Eventually I saw a doctor and got real help. That was the best thing I ever did. I got some creams and did gentle stretching routines that helped a lot. And in some cases of the creams and stretching doesn’t work a small procedure can fix it completely. The point is I did not have to suffer in silence and neither do you.

Men are terrible at talking about this stuff. We ignore it and hope it goes away. But it does not go away on its own. If you are dealing with tightness pain or discomfort down there please see a doctor. It is more common than you think and treatment is easier than you fear.