u/OpticalNeutrino

About me:

Confident and easygoing. I’ve been the unanimous choice for “most likely to survive the zombie apocalypse”—thanks to a past life as a firefighter, EMT, DIY enthusiast, engineer, and Army Airborne Ranger. These days, I’m a well-rounded adrenaline nerd: skateboarding, mountain biking, motorcycles (track only), flying (PPL), skydiving (USPA A license), scuba diving, freediving, dancing (breakdancing, hip-hop, salsa, and bachata) gymnastics, rock climbing, and sailing. I'm actually a certified pirate! Always down to try something once.

Fitness and being active are a core part of my life—lifting, gymnastics, breakdancing, swimming, and mountain biking—but I also enjoy chill nights with board games or geeking out over physics, astronomy, or anything STEM. I hold a PhD in aerospace engineering and have never lost the curiosity that got me there. I love deep-diving into books, podcasts, documentaries, and the occasional trashy TV show to stay balanced. One of my favorite activities with a partner is cuddling up and solving the NYT crossword together.

Emotionally available, high EQ, and I build deep trust easily. I’m progressive, but politics doesn’t rule my life. Financially stable/independent, I enjoy spending more on experiences rather than material things. I definitely don't need a partner who shares in every single one of my activities, but I would like them to share at least a few of them.

Sex-positive and kink-friendly. I’ve had a vasectomy, and I don’t plan on having kids. Open to both monogamy and non-monogamy. I don't reallly drink alcohol socially, I'll drink on occassion like if I visit Dublin I tried a Guinness.

Negotiables: I have a slight preference for living pet-free due to my frequent travel and the feeling that it is incompatible with pet ownership. I do enjoy being a pet uncle, pet sitting, and possibly fostering.

Cons: While I like cats, I am highly allergic to them. I could pet sit a cat for a short bit, but I don't think I could live with one permanently😔

Looking for:

Someone happy and whole on their own, but excited to share life with someone. You’re emotionally secure, independent, a great communicator, and not dragging around a suitcase of unresolved issues—someone who can go from deep convos to laughing at bad documentaries—or beating me at Codenames.

I am open to a long-distance start and am willing to relocate within the next year. I'm looking for someone flexible about visiting and equally open to relocating.

Please send a pic if you reach out—I’ll want to video chat early on to weed out scams or bots.