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Hey all,

I thought I’d give this a go - sorry there seems to be an influx of us DMVers lately haha. I’m 38-years old, 5’7, and work at an animal protection nonprofit remotely. Amicably divorced a few years ago and have a good relationship (we live on different coasts). I live in Maryland about an hour outside of DC and just recently bought and moved into a townhouse for my pup and I.

I enjoy the little moments and quiet joys in life while also appreciating the excitement of adventure sprinkled in. Love chatting about books (in addition to non fiction I especially love sci fi and fantasy), movies, shows, comics/graphic novels (this is new!), music, poetry, philosophy and politics, and swapping suggestions to learn, grow and expand our worlds. Teach me about anime, DnD, gardening or whatever fandom/interest you’re into! And how to make sourdough…

I’m an introvert (INFJ), but value my dearest friends and enjoy meeting people for real conversations from all sorts of different backgrounds than my own. Quality time is likely my love language.

My little Shih Tzu means the world to me though sadly he has terrible separation anxiety, so I use family, friends and sitters to help when I go out. I’m an aspiring cool uncle to my friends’ kids but of course, don’t plan to have any of my own. I do believe mutual attraction is one important aspect of a successful partnership to me as are values and everything else. I have a stable job and career, and am grateful to work on issues I care about, but don’t consider myself “ambitious” in my career in a ‘climb the ladder’ sort of way or strive to work 24/7. Rather I’m keen on living a life rich in meaning without hustle culture being a part of it.

I stopped drinking a few years ago to be a little healthier (it’s fine if you do), but I do enjoy cannabis from time to time.

I was originally raised in a Jewish family but practice Zen Buddhism and meditate each morning, which I like to think helps keep me grounded in compassion, gratitude and empathy. I also appreciate spirituality in general as a way to have a closer connection to the world. I’ve been vegan since 2017 (totally open to meeting non vegans too). We don’t need to share the exact same political stances but I’m a Leftist (socialist) and would like to meet someone on the left side of the spectrum at least so we align on what I’d consider to be important values. I’m bisexual but primarily date women and am looking for a partner who is monogamous minded.

If you’d like to chat feel free to shoot me a message or dm. Open to dating primarily, and possibly friends. I’ll admit I would absolutely love to meet someone who is somewhat local in the DMV (ideally someone at least on or near the east coast in the US just to ensure we can meet up and build something together) and am on the usual apps too.

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Be kind and respectful in the comments thank you.

I work at a stable and reputed Automotive firm in UAE, I am financially capable to support a wife here in UAE, but it will not be a luxury lifestyle, it will be a simple life, but I believe Allah will enrich us through Marriage and bring blessing into what I earn.

I am a practicing Muslim, Never touched a cigarette in my life, same with Alcohol and drugs.

I pray 5 times to the best of my abilities and follow the Quran and Sunnah. I do not endorse Bidah, false Aqeedah and other cultural norms.

I am open to Reverts, Widowed, Divorced and if you are somewhere lacking in Deen we can work together on it inshaAllah (as long as it's not one of the non negotiables like Bidah,false Aqeedah etc)

I am not an introvert or a full blown extrovert.. I open up to people only once I get to know them. I love having deep conversation and I am knowledgeable on the topics of Deen, Philosophy, History, Geography and Science. I love watching movies and series to wind down after work.

I love to Travel, did 2 solo trips in Malaysia and Thailand. Would love to explore more countries with my future partner.

Currently living in Dubai, however very open to relocation provided I have a career as well.

Deal breakers are nothing but major issues in Deen, like having false Aqeedah etc. She doesn't have to be perfect Muslim at all, because I am not either. Toxic, Abusive, disrespectful personalities are not welcome in my life.

Open to Reverts, Widowed, Divorced and other background

May Allah grant us all good and loving Spouses

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Please note: I have mentioned FTM in the title instead of M, but it is Due to a legit medical condition and the reason I cannot have kids and don't want through adoption either, hence lurking on this sub. If you need more clarification my DMs are open.

Hi! I’m a 44-year-old guy living just outside Philadelphia, and I’m looking for a younger woman who’s genuinely interested in an age-gap relationship that has the potential to become something long-term. Please be kids free – I have no children.

A little about me…

I work remotely in cybersecurity and project management, so I have a flexible schedule and the freedom to travel. I’m financially stable, independent, and at a point in my life where I’m looking for quality over quantity.

Outside of work, I’m into fitness (currently in the best shape I’ve been in for years), gaming, technology, trading, traveling, trying new restaurants, and spending time with my two Russian Blue cats. I’m also working toward my doctorate, so I’m naturally curious and always learning something new.

Personality-wise, I’d describe myself as calm, loyal, affectionate, and easy to talk to. I appreciate honesty, good communication, and people who don’t play games.

What I’m looking for

I’m hoping to meet a younger woman who’s kind, emotionally mature, and genuinely excited about the idea of dating an older man.

I’m not looking for casual hookups. I’d rather build a real connection with someone who enjoys good conversation, laughs easily, and wants to see where things can go.

Long distance?

Absolutely.

I’m completely open to long-distance if we click. I work remotely and don’t mind traveling, so distance isn’t a dealbreaker for me. I’d much rather meet the right person across the country than settle for the wrong person who’s ten minutes away.

If things go well, I’d be happy to FaceTime first and eventually plan a trip to meet in person.

If any of this resonates with you, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. I’d love to hear what you’re passionate about, what you’re looking for, and what made you decide to reach out.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

My name is Justine, but you can call me J. I’m 34 and live in upstate/western New York - to clarify, nowhere near NYC, as much as I wish I was.

Dating apps suck, and while I'm not sure my person is on Reddit, I'm hopeful the odds are far greater here because profile prompts like "I know the greatest spot in town for _________" don't exactly excite me. I’m hoping to find someone who is intentional and dating with purpose. If you’re not dating with the hope of building a life together - through the highs, lows, and even the boring days, then you can stop reading my novel below.

I have a lot to offer in terms of emotional stability, loyalty, love, and safety. I’m looking for someone who values those things too. At the end of the day, I want to feel safe and content, whether that’s in your arms or just hearing your voice on a call. Life isn’t perfect or always easy, but who you share it with matters. You can have fun with anyone - but you can't get through the hard moments with anyone.

I lean towards being more introverted and quiet so talking about myself is a tad difficult but I find writing about myself or my thoughts a bit easier if I take the time to do it.

I’m looking for a serious relationship. Not hookups, not casual dating, nothing that leaves me feeling uncertain, empty, or used. I’ve spent a lot of time learning how to feel safe and "ok" about opening up and expressing how I feel, and I appreciate someone who is willing to do the same, even if it doesn’t always come easily. If you ever feel frozen when trying to talk about certain things/deep conversation, trust me, I will understand, it’s just important that eventually you’re able to work your thoughts into words.

Ideally, I want a slow burn - it's not realistic to hop into romance and starting off as friends would be the best foundation for more to develop.

I have a stable career that I’ve been in for the past five years and work remotely, I love the people I work with and don’t see myself changing careers or work style.

I love animals, probably more than I enjoy interacting with people. I have a senior dog who has been with me through everything. He struggles with anxiety but he’s been by my side his entire life & I don’t know where I’d be without him. He gives me a sense of purpose and there's nothing I would not do for him. He's my 'reason for getting out of bed' most days.

I’ve never been married. If you have been, that’s not a dealbreaker - just something I believe should be discussed early on. I value openness / dislike feeling like I have to pry information out of someone.

I drink socially, maybe every few months or if I go out to eat, but even then, it’s kind of hard to justify a sangria costing the same as an appetizer. I don’t smoke (cigarettes/vape/pot) or do any form of recreational drugs and do not wish to be with someone who does.

I’m very much a romantic at heart. I’m not sure how I feel about “love languages” as a concept, but if I had to choose, I’d say words of affirmation and acts of care mean the most to me. Words without actions to back them up don’t hold a whole lot of meaning to me. I want someone who can make me feel protected, both heart & mind. I promise to do the same. If my partner is feeling sad or anxious, I will do my best to put those feelings to rest because I know how it can be to struggle with those on your own.  In my past relationships, I have unfortunately felt that I cared more than my partners did. A good friend once told me that a good relationship is 60/40, with both partners trying to be the “60” and I couldn’t agree more.

Those closest to me might describe me as a bit of a sarcastic hard-ass but there is nothing I want more than to be the opposite of that with my partner. At heart I'm pretty much a sap and want to be able to show that side of me to whomever I allow to see it. I'm very tough and resilient, but pray for the day where I don't have to be.

I’m not in touch with my exes and prefer to keep the past where it belongs. Emotional security is more important to me. I’ve closed those chapters of my life out of respect for whoever I share my future with. While I also have male friends, I do not hangout with them 1x1 while in a relationship and prioritize my partner’s feeling of security with me.

I’m not extremely political, though I lean left. I was raised Catholic, but I’d describe myself as more spiritual than religious. These aspects are not a large part of my life and I see too many consumed by them/anger involving them.

Some things I enjoy:

• Anime (looking to start Witch Hat Atelier & Made in Abyss - also looking forward to the release of Fool Night)
• Traveling (Went to California and Japan this year : ) planning on going to Toronto next month and Florida & NYC in the Fall)
• Coffee shops (I make myself a plain latte every morning though to try and save costs)
• Sushi / omakase
• Thrifting / DIY/ home projects (Finished my workout room and potentially re-doing my basement soon and installing a sauna)
• Cozy games (Stardew Valley set the bar too high but I also like a few others and love trying new ones - Raft, Roots of Pacha, Dinkum - sometimes I'll kill time with Temtem Swarm, Spell Brigade - I feel like these are fun to play with someone on voice and just talk about life/ day to day) - if you were ever a FF fan - let me know your favorite if so, FFX still holds a place in my heart
• I also dabble in some mobile games (I'm a Love & Deepspace girly – please don’t judge me)
• Hiking Trails / Walks
• Beaches and warm weather (I envy those who can drive to a beach and often wonder if I'll be so lucky one day)
• Music tastes vary but one day in middle school I listened to My Chemical Romance and here I am still fan girling over them. My recent listens on spotify include a lot of them, Florence and the Machine, Chappell Roan and various Kpop & Jpop (Ayumi Hamasaki was my favorite as a child)

Winters here can be pretty damn rough, and while I own a house in New York, I’m not necessarily set on staying here forever – if I found my person, I’d be willing to relocate in time – but I’m also hoping you’re open to doing the same, if your life allows it. I'm open to LDR if the mood is right and both of us can commit to travel.

I like a clean, organized environment, and while I know my standards are definitely higher than most, I know when I have to tone it down. I do vacuum nearly every other day to keep the dog fur at bay though lol.

I’m mostly a secure attachment style, but I do have anxious tendencies. At times, I have an incessant worry I am a burden to my partner or others. Due to past relationships (unfortunately multiple) I am not sure I will ever be 100% secure and may always struggle to open up about certain things because I am still learning that it is ok to and be able to without repercussions.

Physically, I’m 5’3”, about 130 lbs, and currently working on continuing to improve my health. I’ve lost 25 pounds since last year with a goal to lose 10 more.

HWP is important and I do have a height preference and tend to be most attracted to men closer to 6'. I know this will land downvotes, but we like what we like and I’m sure there are men out there who would say I don’t have assets they’re attracted to.

Age wise, I would prefer my partner to be somewhere between 30 - 45 or around that.

Intimacy is important & something I don’t take lightly. I value it as something you do with someone you’re emotionally connected with. I’ve never had a hookup/one night stand and could never bring myself to do that if I wanted.

I’m a bit traditional and old school when it comes to romance and relationships and prioritizing your partner.  While I’m not opposed to distance, it requires much more work and consistency. Without consistency there is only room for doubt and worry and I am very much over being with people who did not consider my feelings when taking/failing to take actions. I prefer men who can take initiative and lead / are more dominant. I have a strong personality, and I respect someone who can match that. I will forever be that girl who says "I've got this/that" and you'll just have to step in and help because if there's one thing I definitely suck at it's letting someone help me. But if you can break down that wall, you can pretty much do anything.

I'm not opposed to someone who is not sterile, but would strongly prefer it or hope that you have plans for it in the future.

Financially, I’m responsible and lean toward a minimalist lifestyle. I'd say 80% of my belongings are thrifted, which includes clothing. I seldom buy anything new and prefer experiences over ‘things’.

In the end, I’m looking for someone who’s willing to work through the hard times with me and not give up when/if things look difficult. I want to be a part of a team that can survive and not crumble. I will be your strength if you can be mine. I once wrote a speech for my sister’s wedding a few years back about love being a choice and firmly believe that while it is definitely a feeling, it’s conscious and unconditional.

I have a good life, family & friends and just looking for someone who can add to it. I hope my last missing piece is out there somewhere.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to send me a message with a bit about yourself & a link to a photo. Please comment on one of the things I listed above (hopefully there is at least one in common) so I know you've read my post - maybe an anime you're watching/looking forward to or a trip you took/have planned.

Please do not send a message without a photo/imgur link. I get that Reddit might not allow photo attachments but I don't think it's asking much to share your appearance as I've posted mine : )

Thank you for taking the time to read my ramblings and hope you have a good night ♡.

**For any women who may have made it this far, I am always open to making new friends here as well : )

-J

About me:

Confident and easygoing. I’ve been the unanimous choice for “most likely to survive the zombie apocalypse”—thanks to a past life as a firefighter, EMT, DIY enthusiast, engineer, and Army Airborne Ranger. These days, I’m a well-rounded adrenaline nerd: skateboarding, mountain biking, motorcycles (track only), flying (PPL), skydiving (USPA A license), scuba diving, freediving, dancing (breakdancing, hip-hop, salsa, and bachata) gymnastics, rock climbing, and sailing. I'm actually a certified pirate! Always down to try something once.

Fitness and being active are a core part of my life—lifting, gymnastics, breakdancing, swimming, and mountain biking—but I also enjoy chill nights with board games or geeking out over physics, astronomy, or anything STEM. I hold a PhD in aerospace engineering and have never lost the curiosity that got me there. I love deep-diving into books, podcasts, documentaries, and the occasional trashy TV show to stay balanced. One of my favorite activities with a partner is cuddling up and solving the NYT crossword together.

Emotionally available, high EQ, and I build deep trust easily. I’m progressive, but politics doesn’t rule my life. Financially stable/independent, I enjoy spending more on experiences rather than material things. I definitely don't need a partner who shares in every single one of my activities, but I would like them to share at least a few of them.

Sex-positive and kink-friendly. I’ve had a vasectomy, and I don’t plan on having kids. Open to both monogamy and non-monogamy. I don't reallly drink alcohol socially, I'll drink on occassion like if I visit Dublin I tried a Guinness.

Negotiables: I have a slight preference for living pet-free due to my frequent travel and the feeling that it is incompatible with pet ownership. I do enjoy being a pet uncle, pet sitting, and possibly fostering.

Cons: While I like cats, I am highly allergic to them. I could pet sit a cat for a short bit, but I don't think I could live with one permanently😔

Looking for:

Someone happy and whole on their own, but excited to share life with someone. You’re emotionally secure, independent, a great communicator, and not dragging around a suitcase of unresolved issues—someone who can go from deep convos to laughing at bad documentaries—or beating me at Codenames.

I am open to a long-distance start and am willing to relocate within the next year. I'm looking for someone flexible about visiting and equally open to relocating.

Please send a pic if you reach out—I’ll want to video chat early on to weed out scams or bots.

haiiiii :)

seeking a fellow child-free person to get to know, platonically in the beginning and open to romance if the vibe is right.

who am i? i am so many things but concise is unfortunately not one of them. i’m extroverted, well-traveled, and value my independence above everything. i study the occult, i pull tarot and memorize astrological correspondences. i read my weight in litfic, i prioritize reading works by women. i collect so many things: vinyls, tattoos, photo strips, maps of museums I visit, tiny trinkets from all over the world, concert tees. fiona apple is my favorite singer and i take music extremely seriously, although I play no instruments (yet). i write in my free time, i love to laugh at brain rot and i watch more documentaries than films (but i love both). i speak Spanish. women’s liberation is my primary political stance, and i don’t argue about my beliefs nor do i entertain debates about human rights. my degree is in political science, in school for an MPA, and my professional background is rather mixed.

what am i looking for? a slow burn, a mutually-cultivated partnership formed through deliberate action and emotional investment. i want to get to know someone entirely, ideally someone who has a rich inner life and outer life just as i do. this someone has a varied set of hobbies and interests and a desire to show me what they’re passionate about. i love to listen as much as i love to talk. other cities, states, cultures, and nationalities are so interesting to me so please don’t be afraid to reach out if you live far - i’d love to visit. i value intellectualism, emotional depth, and a silly sense of humor.

who am i looking for? i’m bisexual so women and men are equally beautiful to me. i don’t have a preference for looks, but mutual attraction is nonetheless important to me. i only ask that you are confident in who you are and what you believe in, i find that extremely attractive. i do have a preference for politics and beliefs - i am an atheist and a staunch feminist with far left politics. i am only interested in other atheists and feminists/far-leftists, this is a hard boundary. also seeking someone between 26 and 40, age is also a hard boundary.

if you’d like to talk, send me a message :) i will ask for a picture to confirm and i am not interested in anonymity/sex-based dynamics. ttys!

Heya, 28 year old womanchild here. I made my first post about 6 weeks ago and had a few interesting conversations, but no cigar, so I’m trying again and improving my post to be more specific - I'm here for quality, not quantity :) If you sent a message last time but I didn’t reply, I was either already overwhelmed with messages or you sent something too low effort, so feel free to try again (just don’t even bother writing if you’re only going to say something along the lines of: “Hi I’m 30/M, want to chat?” You know a lot about me from this post, so when contacting me, I expect some kind of actual introduction or references to what I’ve written.)

I'm from England but have spent most of my adult life learning languages and living abroad, I really don’t identify with the modern UK and ultimately don’t fit into any nationality box too well - I think in some ways I align with Eastern Europe and I’ve actually been told several times that I look Polish or Russian, but really I’m too smiley and allergic to grey and Ikea furniture to pass as one of them :)

It’s always a challenge to try to convey your personality in a few paragraphs that will help people ascertain well enough if we’re on similar wavelengths, but here we go: I'm INTJ and definitely a deep thinker (some may say over-thinker, but let’s think (deeply) positive;)). Whilst I find politics generally tiresome, it is unfortunately unavoidable these days, so to quickly address: I have mixed views from both sides of the spectrum (and find the whole monolithic left/right concept a frankly idiotic false dichotomy), but I’m definitely more socially conservative and that also applies for my ideal relationship dynamic - I love traditional ideals of femininity and masculinity, the way they compliment each other and can be brought out in each other within the intimacy of a trusting, healthy, supportive relationship to create that beautiful yin-yang. Also, to get it out of the way off the bat, I really want to grow with my partner and am looking for a committed monogamous lifelong relationship on the basis of marriage, so if you’re not looking to say vows, we won’t work out :)

For a little more about my personality: I am colourful, playful, enthusiastic, soft, very affectionate, aesthetics-oriented, and I have a big childish streak - I’ll cry over videos of baby seals, pepper my chats with cute stickers, put glittery Ditto thumbcaps on my lilac handheld, and totally get excited over going for ice-cream. Also, I have a business selling women’s vintage and niche clothing, so I always have all sorts of interesting pieces at hand and love swanning around in princessy ballgowns, Indian lehengas with 10-meter flair, velvet full-length opera coats, German folk dresses, etc :) When I leave the house I’m slightly less conspicuous though, don’t worry ;)

Other appearance stuff you can mostly see in the picture and video, but a quick rundown: I'm 5'7, slim, and I have no tattoos or piercings apart from in ears. I’m pale and do what I can to keep it that way, so walking around with a parasol is the norm for me :) I do lots of skincare and anti-aging stuff, but despite my general interest in beauty stuff, I prefer a rather natural look with minimal make-up and I’d never have fake lashes or nails, have never dyed my hair, etc.

For online habits: I don't have any social media apart from Reddit, but even then, my subs are all language or niche-hobby related. I spent my teenagerhood totally online playing lots of games and ended up studying IT, so I have general knowledge about all that side of life, but really don't keep up with it anymore. I realise the irony considering where I’m writing this, but I guess I’m spiritually some kind of neo-luddite who thinks technology should have stopped progressing at the flip-phone :) On a semi-related note, I don’t watch many films or series in general, but when I do, I find myself going back to just re-watch (and to a lesser extent, re-play) old things I’ve enjoyed before because the mass of new media is not only overwhelming, but also mostly terrible, and I’m just not interested in filtering.

My biggest, most consistent interest and passion in life has been languages (Polish, Japanese, Russian, Spanish, Mandarin, und in letzter Zeit ein bisschen Deutsch) and I’d love to find someone else who is not monolingual, but I can certainly compromise on that. I know the language thing is something unusual and interesting, but I politely request that you don’t just ask about them/how I’ve learnt in the first message as basically everyone does and it’s kind of a long story to keep explaining ;D For those who wish to know though, the very much truncated story is that I’m self-taught as an adult mainly using Anki and virtual immersion, and that my main motivation is just loving languages rather than needing them for my occupation.

Apart from that, I'm interested in things like evolutionary psychology, consciousness, and various other esoteric topics that I cycle through. I regularly have obsessive phases where I immerse myself briefly in a topic ranging from typewriters to North Korean society to prepper-style survival methods to weird medical stories to whatever. As an example of some of the randomness and breadth of my tastes, I’m currently reading three books in various languages about the sexual lives of popes, Shackleton’s voyage, and negative philosophy about the burden of being conscious :’)

Sooo, apart from some things I’ve already alluded to above, what I would like for you is to be healthy mentally and physically, emotionally mature, gentlemanly and protective, confident, not chronically online, older than me, have real passions and interests outside of fulfilling biological needs or passive media consumption (i.e. eating and videogames do not count). I really need you to have an active inner life as stimulating conversations are my lifeblood, whilst smalltalk is a chore :) Someone who is playful and, like me, able to go from a serious conversation about the nature of reality to some incredibly stupid in-joke reference in a split second would also be ideal :D

You can be from basically anywhere (and I can relocate to anywhere, for future reference) but especially if you’re further away and meeting quickly is not feasible, you have to put some effort into being active online once things get going - I’m not expecting constant communication all the time as of course we both have real lives and other commitments, but one message a day and lots of “sorry I’m too busy/tired to write back” doesn’t make me feel like I have even virtual companionship - I want both of us to be enthusiastic about each other. Also I like sending voice notes, so if you’re into that, that’s a plus :)

If you’ve been reading all of this and thinking we might be a good fit, then your reward for getting this far is a weird little intro video I did like it’s the 00’s on OKCupid :D No filter, no make-up. Password is ‘pingu’ https://disk.yandex.com/i/NuWpNF1esrRNyA

P.S. If for some reason a girl is reading this and thinks I sound interesting, I’m always looking for new friends too, so don’t be shy to get in touch :))

Morning Folks,

I’m Krysten. I’m 36 years old, I’m in Houston Texas (the weather is hot..) I’m a BBW at a size 20. I’m going to get straight to the point here, I’m not looking for people to have one night stand or to flick my bean one night and wake up and to say good morning to a ghost and have my heart broken one more time. I’m looking for a lifetime long person.

Send me a message and we’re going to go straight to voice, discord. Please don’t apply if you’re not ready to talk to me.

Thank for your time. Have a great Sunday and a good start of work week.

Hi there. I'm an INFJ, professional overthinker, currently based in Norway but about to blow up my own life in the best way possible.

Short version: I’m selling my flat, stepping back from the 9 to 5 hustle, and living off passive income plus my own consulting gig for a while. No kids, no regrets, just a genuine excitement about having actual freedom for the first time in years. Basically I spent a long time building things (infrastructure, AI systems, businesses) and now I want to go build a life instead.

What that life mostly involves: sailing badly but enthusiastically, hiking alone until my legs hate me, and staring at horizons like I’m in a very slow music video. I’m also weirdly serious about leaving the planet a bit better than I found it, so if you roll your eyes at people who care about that, we’re probably not a match.

I’m not looking for someone to fix my chaos, more someone to explore it with. Bonus points if you’re also childfree by choice and don’t need convincing that it’s a full life, not a missing piece. Extra bonus points if you can out hike me, though I’ll pretend that’s not happening.

Photos below of me in my natural habitat (mid trail, slightly windswept, suspiciously happy). Not in a rush, just curious where this goes. Say hi if any of this sounds like your kind of adventure too.

Hello everybody. My name is Julian, I am 32 year old and from Germany. Born, raised and living here. Like most of us I am posting here to find a relationship. My first to be exact. 😅 To keep it short I will list some things about myself and who I am searching for. Feel free to ask me anything you want to know and I didn't mention.

- 32, 1.78m tall, weigh about 105kg, brown hair, blue eyes, beard and glasses.
- Shy, introverted, nerdy (to a degree). Strange mix of dark and juvenile humour. Sarcastic.
- Studied chemistry, have a BSC in it. Currently searching for a job.
- Like to read, watch videos/streams, game, listen to music (Alt/Grunge and different things). Go to the gym to work on my weight.
- Left leaning, atheist, obviously childfree. Don't drink, smoke or do drugs but eat meat.

Now to the woman I am searching for:

- 25 to 35 years old. Height doesn't matter (yes, tall queens are welcome). Nationality/ethnicity doesn't matter to me as well. I do prefer someone that is slim/skinny. Not too chubby is also fine. Physical attraction matters to me so I would love to see a picture pretty quickly.
- Kind, understanding and patient would be ideal.
- Obviously childfree. Not a smoker, no drugs. Drinking in moderation is fine. I don't mind vegetarians or vegans. Also please not someone too clingy. I am not the type for that.
- Living in/around Germany or wanting to move here is definitely preferred.

That is it. If you want to get to know me and see where it could lead, feel free to write me. Or if you know someone that would be interested you can always link them my post.
Now thank you for reading and enjoy your day.

If you've ever paused a movie just to explain a random fun fact, quoted Brooklyn Nine-Nine in real life, or believe food is a valid love language... we might get along.

About me:

\-25, from Mumbai (but location isn't a dealbreaker if we're compatible).

\-Proud servant to my rescue cat, Loki, who was supposed to be a foster and is now my entire personality.

\-I work in social media & content marketing, which means I spend an unhealthy amount of time convincing algorithms to like me.

\-Obsessed with true crime documentaries, sitcoms (B99, The Big Bang Theory), Marvel, books, travelling, and discovering cafes and libraries.

\-My humour ranges from wholesome to "I can't believe you just said that."

Childfree

I'm childfree due to a medical condition, so biological children aren't part of my future, and I'm completely at peace with that.

Looking for someone who...

• is Muslim.

• is kind before anything else.

• can communicate instead of disappearing when life gets hard.

• can laugh at themselves.

• is emotionally mature.

• is taller than me (I'm 5'3", so this shouldn't be too difficult 😭).

• wants marriage eventually if we genuinely click.

• doesn't mind random memes at 2 a.m.

Bonus points if:

You like cats.

You'll watch documentaries with me.

You'll happily debate whether The Dark Knight or Infinity War is the better movie.

You understand that fries are communal until I actually order them.

If this resonates, Do Say Hi!

Hi All!

I’m a 26F from Hyderabad working as an Angular Developer with 4.5yrs exp and childfree by choice. I’m hoping to meet someone who feels the same and is interested in building a genuine long-term relationship.

About me:

I’m a software developer, so most weekdays are spent coding, attending meetings, and solving random bugs. Outside work I enjoy conversations about life, psychology, astrology and career.

Hobbies:

• Nature photography 🌿 (I love landscapes but oddly hate photographing people
• Reading Books 📖
• Listening to or reading horror stories
• Music, travel and exploring new places 🎵

Personality-wise I’m introverted at first, but once I’m comfortable I can be quite talkative and playful. I prefer calm environments, meaningful conversations and people who are genuine.

• I don’t smoke 🚬🚫
• I occasionally taste drinks but I’m not really a drinker
• 5'2 and chubby ( hitting gym to be fit)
• I earn 13LPA
• I enjoy travelling ✈️ and shopping 🛍️
• I’m ambitious about career and lifestyle
• I'm a materialistic person
• In career, earning wise I'm good but looking for transitions.
• I’m not really a “simple life” person — I like life to have colors, experiences, travel, and a comfortable/luxurious lifestyle.

Reason of being CF:

childbirth is painful, i want to enjoy luxuries in life, lets say i need to go impromptu trips, then childfree is the way. I love traveling, i hate having additional responsibilities in life. i'm a bit lazy though. i get mentally exhausted quickly, so child is a big no for me. when i go home, all i need is peace, rest, calm, silence, me time, maybe with partner if hes there. i dont want to suffer financially in my life as i'm self made, my parents are not rich. i wanna spend my money for my happiness and comfort.

My money is mine to spend and time is mine to spend along with love of my life. That's a great liberty.

What I’m hoping to find in partner:

• Male (Hindu or Non-Indian Christian ) 26 -33 ideally and childfree by choice
• Must be good-looking handsome, well-groomed, and emotionally expressive (Non-Negotiable).
• Good dressing sense (Must) — I appreciate men who present themselves well.
• Must know Car Driving (Non Negotiable) --- I enjoy being the passenger princess sometimes 😄 though I can drive too. I have a bike phobia and won’t travel on bikes forever.
• Ideally 5'7+
• Non-smoker (Non-negotiable)
• Limited to Occasional drinker is fine but not heavy drinking
• Kind yet straight-forward to anyone including parents. who is not spineless infront of parents.
• Emotionally mature, respectful, and mentally healthy without recent breakups
• Someone stable in career and ambitious
• Looking for a serious relationship, not casual dating
• no baggage from past relationships.

If we end up together, I’m not interested in living with in-laws or parents. I prefer our own place.

Note: If this resonates with you, Dm with your introduction along with Reason for being CF. Random Hi msgs will be ignored.

It's a long description, as clarity at this stage is better than clarity post attachment to someone incompatible :) if you're predisposed to read the whole thing, you might be someone who seeks the same fullness in love and life as me! I'm not here to appeal to everyone, rather, I'm here to find that rare person with whom I am as compatible as possible.

About me, and me in love:

I enjoy slow travel, staying in the same place for days and getting to know its bones - the locals, the food and the vibe, rather than tourist-hotspot-hopping. Different cultures, languages and cuisines are endlessly fascinating to me. Currently Mexico, South Korea, Moorea, Tanzania, Guadeloupe, and Suriname are on my go to next list.

Frequent time in nature is an essential - i live among greenery, i enjoy rainy days, inside and out, finding remote waterfalls and hidden trails, and I'll always, always stop to take pictures of flowers and fruits.

My current fascination is mycology and i tend to have a new one every few months, which means I'll always come to you with little factoids. I love dressing well, and wearing beautiful flowing colourful dresses and saris day to day.

I am (if i may say so) a really good cook, and I'll spend hours perfecting your favourite dish in the kitchen - I'll also try my hand at any cuisine, and stockpile niche spices and ingredients from far off lands for months in the freezer. One of my ultimate life goals is to have a gorgeous rustic kitchen with a massive kitchen island and a view of our own herb garden and orchard, and in an ideal world i would just spend most of my time in there, experimenting with new dishes and cooking up old favourites.

I don't smoke or do any sort of drugs (and i would love the same from you, if possible) but i do love a really, really good glass of wine or cocktail, and sharing drinks with loved ones is truly a supreme joy in life for me.

Be warned - my sense of humour is EXTREMELY stupid, so expect ludicrous playacting and skits, multipile daily memes and videos. I sing everyday, i enjoy dancing, i love all games, except mindgames, especially old school FPSs, escape rooms, NYT word games and crosswords. I'm a voracious reader of all genres except biographies which I find dull as hell. A good thriller or horror is highly satisfying, be it movie, book or show, and Godzilla Minus One is my favourite movie of the last decade.

I don't believe a couple needs to share all the same hobbies, on the contrary, but i'd love to share in some of these interests with you should you desire that, as well as for you to teach me about some of yours! I've been dying to try my hand at woodwork, just in case that's something you know about :)

I'm a hopeless romantic - i love going on proper date nights, and talking endlessly with my man about everything. Banter, flirting, chemistry and a strong sense of intimacy, both physical and emotional, are lifeblood. I adore big beautiful gestures and surprises in love - making them, as much as receiving them.

I really need someone who's not too serious and who shares my stupid sense of humour because laughing together is the best thing in the universe.

In the interest of honesty - I can be stubborn and impatient at times (I'm not rude about it though), i can get anxious regarding unknowns, and I'm really, (possibly over) particular about getting to places on time. I'm supremely needy with regards to cuddling, physical touch and affection. I will pester you for back rubs every day. I also have a seasonal nasal drip, so there are mornings where you'll hear me hack and cough like a truck driver🤷🏽

Compatibility check:

I work remotely, and it would be great if you did as well, so we could travel around with a lot more flexibility, or live in different places and make the world our oyster.

But this is not a non negotiable, we can also just travel during holiday time, and I'm also willing to relocate for the right man - as long as it's to a warm place with a whole lot of greenery - I'm not good with the cold or barren landscapes!

I'm currently live between tropical paradise Goa, India and sunny, golden Spain, and I'd love for you to visit me if we connect. Ideally i would want our long term bases to be in South/East Asia and Southwestern Europe, but I’m flexible on this. I speak English, Spanish, and Hindi fluently, I'm currently learning Korean and French, and i would happily add your language to this list.

I'm an atheist, and while i genuinely appreciate and enjoy visiting places of worship or rituals culturally and at festival time, religion matters zero to me - so you can be from any faith (or any country for that matter), but someone very religious or devout would not be compatible, in no scenario would i be practicing or converting.

I have never been married, and i would absolutely love to be married to the right man, having a fun wedding would be a great bonus, so i hope you're not anti-marriage.

I am decidedly and wholly child free for endless reasons, and have been for decades - this is absolutely non negotiable, so i need someone else who is unwaveringly CF too, not someone open to / on the fence / hoping I'll change my mind about it. So no kids, previous or future, biological or adopted. You would be my number one priority and i would be yours, always.

Who I'm looking for and who should be looking for me:

Someone who wants to experience a whole lot of life together, across the spectrum:

I'm as happy movie marathoning while cuddling and being tucked into a blanket with my partner as i am going out bar- hopping together, I'm as happy homebodying for weeks as i am taking a spontaneous couple's trip abroad. I'm equally comfortable sharing tea or a spicy snack at a roadside shack as i am at a superfancy restaurant on date night, and i love being out in nature hiking in the remotest of spots amid a storm as much i love exploring cityscapes and bustling towns together.

I find beauty and joy in all these experiences, and i want to be able to experience all of them with you. So someone who's neither too posh to rough it out at times, nor too 'grounded' to enjoy the finer things in life would be the ideal fit.

Someone inherently monogamous:

I am made to be a girlfriend or a wife, and i would want a man who loves being a boyfriend or a husband, in an old fashioned way.

I want quality intimacy over quantity - I deeply desire the emotional and sexual depth that goes with a long term commitment, and I'm okay with dealing with the potential 'boredom' that comes with it, since I'm great at keeping things fresh and bringing novelty and spice into the relationship, i hope you would be too. I do not wish to share you with anyone, and i would not be okay with you wishing to share me, sexually or romantically.

Someone who's (I'm sorry, but it's unfortunately the perfect description) 'daddy' vibes:

While i dont believe anyone 'should' subscribe to any traditional gender role, I happen to lean extremely traditionally feminine, physically, emotionally and energetically, and so a man who finds that attractive, and who brings a healthy, secure and assertive masculinity would be a perfect fit for me.

Beyond perks like old-school dating and chivalry, I love a man who's protective, deeply emotional, hands-on (i like fixers), consistent and dependable, someone generous, loyal and resilient. Someone who's very comfortable leading and takes a LOT of initiative (please note none of this means controlling), and who loves femininity, sensuality, initiative, empathy, emotion, complete loyalty, and a gentle touch in return (please note none of this means submissiveness, i am the last person you should be looking for if you want someone submissive).

It's really important that you actually enjoy being this man, and it's not something you do because you HAVE to - because that never lasts, and I'm not here to nag you or change you, but I'll always desire it, and it's the only type of man I find attractive!

If you believe that all masculinity = inherent /implied/real misogyny, or that femininity and feminism can't go hand in hand, then we likely wouldn't be on the same page.

Someone extremely financially stable:

Speaking from a difficult past experience, I never again want to deal with either the potential conditioning/ego clashes of my partner not earning well enough by his own standards, nor the logistical issues of having to restrict our joint lifestyle because of constant money limitations.

I love having a clean, spacious, beautiful home, good, healthy food, a calendar full of upcoming flights the world over, and a secure safety net, and that's not something i want to ever compromise on again. So i would want a partner who equally enjoys the same.

While i love my work, earn, invest, and am very responsible with money, and would always continue to do and be so in order to contribute, as well as maintain a healthy stability and non-dependence, i also lean very old-school when it comes to dating and relationships. So I’m drawn to a man who is well established and who takes pride in and is comfortable being the primary provider and protector, the way i take pride in being an inherent nurturer and organizer to make our home, travels, and lives as beautiful and soulful as possible, and by being a calm, soft place for you to land at whenever you need.

This is imperative for me, denying it or feigning it on either end would only lead to future unhappiness and resentment.

We would both lead in our own ways, bringing those qualities and strengths to the table, and be equal partners with overlapping yet distinct roles. Once we know each other and there is a baseline of trust established that you and i would always take care of each other in the ways we best know, i would hope all transactionality would go out the window.

Someone who has worked on their EQ:

I genuinely believe in 'it's not me versus you, it's us versus the problem' and i hope you do too. I never play mind games, i communicate upfront, and in times of conflict i always strive for calm, sensitive and productive conversations, and would need the same from you.

I want to be your peace and safe space, and for you to be mine. I want you to trust me with your bad days, hold me on mine, and always be a part of my team. This doesn't mean being a yes man, as i also believe partners need to check, push and challenge each other from time to time to help each other grow and learn, albeit kindly.

I believe I've spent a lot of time on self work, in therapy and outside, to become aware of my patterns, weaknesses, insecurities and strengths and to learn good communication and conflict resolution.

So it is important to me that you've also at least started on this journey, and are comfortable with your emotions / communicating well. That's not to say i expect my partner to perfect and be fully healed, no one is, and I will always support you through your path of growth while hoping for the same from you.

Above all a relationship should be calm, and anxiety and drama free. No chaos, no eggshells. Neither of us should ever be relegated to emotional punching bag / default peacemaker / emotional labourer, as is is inevitable when one or both partners have not done any self work and are thus oblivious to their own patterns.

Someone who still likes people:

I'm incredibly lucky to come from an amazing, warm, hilarious, supportive, progressive, loving family and have also been very fortunate to have built wonderful, long lasting friendships the world over - they would be an integral part of our lives so i would want to be with someone who would enjoy that and embrace it, rather than just tolerate it.

I would absolutely love to be a part of your world as well - where you come from doesn't matter to me (and if you were dealt a rough family hand, that's nothing you could have done anything about), but it's important that you have some healthy relationships and friendships, even if they are few.

I would embrace your loved ones (and your culture and country, if it happens to be different) as mine, and would want the same from you, and i'd love for you to show me off as much as i'd show you off.

Of course, you and i would be a primary unit and not stand for any interference in our lives, neither from yours, not from mine. But socially speaking, nothing would make me happier than to visit each others' friends and families, and celebrate some holidays and festivals together, while making new connections along the way.

Easter Egg - If you actually have read all I've written here, and would like to write to me, start your dm to me with a flower you find beautiful? I've added this nugget at a random point midway through my text, it'll be a fun way to know who's actually read the whole thing! :) to continue:

Someone who likes animals:

I cannot overstate my love for all animals. I love them to bits. I cry at animal videos. I melt when i see them. They bring me so much joy. It would be great if you to have, at the minimum, a fondness and empathy for animals - if you don't, you'll get irritated when i stop to pet a dog or coo at a lizard for the 53rd time on any given day.

I don't expect you to share my love for snakes or hippos haha, but if you enjoy bullfights, hunt for fun, or just about tolerate dogs rather than actively like them and find them cute, i dont think we would work.

Also, on a related note - I'm vegetarian for animal-love reasons. I dont need the same from you, and would never dictate your diet, but if you believe that all vegetarian food is garbage and bland by definition, and can only exclusively enjoy meaty meals, that's a clash - I'm a huge, for lack of a better term, 'foodie'. I cook every day, and I could and would travel purely for cuisine.

While I'm absolutely okay with you eating whatever you want, i dont cook with meat unless it's a very, very rare situation, but i really want to be able to cook with love for my partner, or for us to share a great meal at a veggie place once in a while. Food is a huge part of my life, and if there's no crossover between our diets, then day to day life gets hard.

Someone physically strong:

I'm short, slim, curvy, and fairly fit (5'3/160cm, 51 kilos), so the tiny part of me wants to feel enveloped by a big man, with an all encompassing, protective bear hug that let's me melt into you every time we see each other.

My ideal type is really big tall and strong/built, with a deep voice although these are bonuses, not imperatives. Big, strong arms and are a must though, can’t do without (: and basic fitness would be great.

Fin-

I no longer believe couples need to like all the same things or share all the same qualities so I don't need us to be carbon copies, on the contrary, i hope I've successfully managed to describe the healthy duality and balance we could both bring to make our lives even fuller than they are now, halve our sorrows and double our joys.

I want us to be absolute clowns together, have fun, make love, slow dance in our living room, and tell each other everything. I want to feel safe, calm, loved, protected and taken care of with you, in good times and bad, and i would always do the same for you. I want for you to my best friend, for me to be yours, and for us to grow old together.

If this sounds like it could be you and aligns with what you want, get in touch (with a picture, so i can put a face to our conversation, I'm happy to share more pictures too once we establish a conversation)? Write me something about who you are or what you want in a relationship - the more you write the better! As you can see i don't shy away from long texts:)

I never knew this subreddit existed until today. I would love to meet a woman in Massachusetts or atleast the Northeast (if outside that Northeast, still send a chat). I dont always have to have everything in common with my partner. Its nice that we both can also be ourselves. But share life with each other.

I like to workout, go for hikes, visit museums and art galleries. I also like to stay in watch a series or soccer, read, or play with my dog that I love. I love music a lot! I am definitely a deep thinker and deep conversationalist. I want to be able to have a consistency and communicate with each other.

I work in behavioral health/social services. I am currently in college for psychology with the goals to go to grad school for social work.

Psychology is definitely one of my main passions in life. I love to learn and to understand humans better.

I do like nature and wildlife a lot. I believe in working on myself to be the best human that I can be. Coffee shops, dinner, and just going out for adventures are always a fun times.

If you feel that we could be a good fit or if you want to talk and see if their could be chemistry between us. You can send me a message

**I’m also looking for friends as well**

I live in Massachusetts, where I grew up, but spent my undergrad/grad years in Washington, DC and Virginia studying literature. I have a steady job that I’ve had for 7+ years in scientific publishing but wouldn’t call myself “career driven.” I prefer to cultivate skills, goals, and meaning outside of work. Not a high earner but financially responsible and on the FIRE path.

I’m 5'7" with a relatively active lifestyle, running 5 days/week with a few half marathons under my belt and hiking in New Hampshire several times a year. Hiking gives me time to disconnect and be alone with my thoughts while also challenging myself to do something scary or new. While I love this opportunity for solitude, I often pass by couples on the trail—that could be us one day! Other than hiking, I love traveling, nature/landscape photography, reading (let’s compare bookshelves?), and working on the iOS app I’m building in my spare time.

I tend to be a homebody but am always up to go to a literary event, see a movie, or check out a museum, flea market, or craft fair. Big groups or performative socializing aren’t really my thing. Personality-wise, I’m a relatively quiet person who finds it hard to open up to others in the beginning.

I’m non-religious and progressive. I try to stay informed and enjoy talking about politics (or any intellectual topic)—not trading headlines back and forth but having nuanced conversations about whose voice gets heard and how to survive anti-democratic times.

I’m firmly and happily childfree with an upcoming sterilization scheduled. Instead of kids, I’d like to focus my life on traveling, working on hobbies, building a stable relationship with my partner, and maybe having a dog or two.

You, ideally: aligned on politics and religion; ages ~24–36 (flexible); seeking a monogamous and long-term relationship; non-smoker; dog-friendly; and in or near MA/the northeast US. While I don’t think an LDR is ideal, if you’re elsewhere on the East Coast and think we might be a good match, shoot your shot! I’m open to trying it with the right person.

When I’m comfortable with someone, I enjoy deep conversations and staying in touch throughout the day. Not constant texting, but asking questions and sharing jokes, observations, links, or lines from the books we’re reading. Once I open up, I’m affectionate, intentional, and loyal.

Even if we’re not totally aligned, if any of this resonates, I’d love to hear from you and see if there’s a connection. Please be willing to share a photo in your first few messages. As I said, I’m open to friendships too!

Good Morning! I posted here last night and my inbox is trashed, so I'm currently sifting through the rubble but I thought I'd post here and in a couple more communities.

I'm going on a hike this morning and would love some verbal or virtual company.

What am I looking for? Hm. You know, I'd like to chat aimlessly with a handsome/beautiful stranger. I'm looking for someone with a little ✨️ zazz ✨️ and enough wit, word count and sentence structure to get me interested. I like weird but most importantly confident people who aren't ashamed to be themselves. Also, this is totally niche but if you try to negg me - you'll get blocked. I am incredibly confident and won't be rattled by a whole lot.

Mutual attraction is majorly important: https://imgur.com/a/ZAdN53v

I'm terrible at describing myself but I'll give you some bullet points:

Alt/Goth/Hippie/Tattooed Bisexual Woman

5'6 1/2 (no boots) 5'7 1/2 (with boots)

Curvy, Flirty and likely already sick of your shit.

Horror Movies>literally everything else

Diet Coke>literally everything else

CLE OH.

"Tan everywhere, JAN everywhere."

Come, sit and have coffee with me.