u/Ordinarlylilsickness

I’m a boy from the uk 18yo, last week I went to a birthday party at an Airbnb and obviously I was around people my age all over 18 and we were all having a fun time drinking and smoking, thing is next day I wake up with a message from the bday party girl saying multiple women felt uncomfortable by me and I got accused of being a girls toucher, things got even worse after that.
Let’s start from the party itself, I get there with my friends, have a good time talk to people and talk to new people as well, I got laid twice that night but we are about to get into it, when I first started socialising with the new people this girl was drowning me on compliments for my looks my hair and more, I reciprocated because I like being complimented and it all lead to a kiss not long after, after the kiss we walked outside and I was talking to my friend, when then something else happened, another girl was talking to me and she kissed me out of the blue, now as a young man you can imagine how I must’ve felt, I didn’t back down because quite frankly she was my type as well, but that’s where things start to get messy.

This second girl ( we gonna call her becca) was a friend of one of my best friends ( we gonna call him Ben) Ben and Becca have known each other for 3 years but it all started because they had the intention to date at first but she was not interested in him like that, so Ben stayed friends with her, the day of this bday party, I texted Ben and he told me how he was bringing Becca ( mind you I never really met her before I just knew she was someone in his life, genuinely no info up until that night) so I’m texting Ben and telling him how he should try make a move maybe but he clarified multiple times how they are just friends and he wouldn’t do that, so now we got to when Becca kissed me, that triggered Ben because apparently he lied to me and he actually still had feelings for her, pretty strong too. Now in this situation if you was me you’d apologise and move on but that’s where I made the mistake, I apologies but then Becca and Ben went to talk privately and ended up talking about me, I’m a curious person so I decided to ask Becca afterwards what was it all about and then we ended up kissing again, ( I won’t blame it on the alcohol and chemistry but it defo played a part) now that enraged my friend Ben who started slapping himself and other stuff he didn’t wanna talk to me so I left him alone, by the end of the night he left saying he was sorry because he should’ve told me he had feelings for her but he didn’t so it was a miscommunication and it was all good, but ofc it wasn’t and he then ended up blocking me everywhere not even an hour after. Meanwhile all this was happening I was still talking to other people at the party interacting with them and everything else, I did not have no sexual intention with anyone cuz that’s not where my headspace was, but apprently some girls told the party girl that I was being touchy whit them, when in reality the max I have done was to either hold someone by their waist ( which in retrospect I understand how u can feel uncomfortable by that) or simply talk to them in a drunk way cuz I was drunk. It all then ended up becoming a bigger thing, because when the birthday girl texted me she also texted my groupchat where I have A LOT of people in it (I know a lot of people and do events and stuff, it’s business too for me so imagine how that impacted my life) and from there it all went downhill because when that message was sent in the gc I was at work and I couldn’t reply I logged in the account and read some wild shit like how I’m a predator, how I do events to lure girls to come and molest them, how I see women as nothing but objects, I even got called a rapist. None of it was backed up by facts, none of it came with receipts, even the people who attended the party and saw me did not say a thing to defend me. It all ruined me. The day after I sent an apology message in the gc, it was a weak one, but I only said what was true, that I was deeply sorry anyone felt uncomfortable by my behaviour, I did not feed into any of the lies, I did not defend myself from allegations, none of that. I should’ve but because of all the things that happened at the same time, loosing all my friends, even the closest ones due to that girl thing, then the allegations, then sponsors and important people I work with cutting ties with me due to all this, I had nothing left of me to fight. But now I do.

I lost it all so I have no reason to let this go further, it’s been a week but now I have a plan.

I know the Airbnb where the party was held, I requested via email to keep hold of the camera footage of that night, I have not received an email back yet, so I will call today. I will also go to the police and tell them everything that happened because I have receipts and that should allow me to open a case and therefore actually have access to the footage of the party, I will hold accountable every single fucking brainless person who fed into the lies and further ruined my life, I will expose this whole thing and once I have all the proofs I need I will post it all. They will all go down for doing this.

I’m not doing it for approval or redemption, I’m doing it to clear my name and soul, because at least I will fight for what’s right for what’s true. And if anyone ever mentions this stuff I have proof I can say I AM INNOCENT.

So please help me figure out what’s the exact best way to go about this situation, I’m a young man, who has done so many things to succeed in life already and I do not want to stop living my life because people believe lies and rumors with no proof instead of questioning the accusations.

Help me.