r/SupportForTheAccused

So my fiance was picked up on Monday for a felony warrant that we didn't know he had. He gets taken in and I find out the next day at his bond hearing he has 23 charges. Ten of them are felonies. WTF! So the judge set his bond to 250k cash only. FML. He's never even had a speeding ticket and he's 38 years old. I've spent the last two days calling every attorney that deals with his type of case and they are telling me $60k retainer plus more. How tf does anyone get good legal defense at those prices? Even if his bond was a surety bond who has $25k just laying around?

My friend was arrested in July for racial and religious harassment. I think he shouted a anti sermatic word at his neighbour who he can't stand. Anyhow he was arrested and the police found some SIM cards in his house and a phone. I believe my friend sent quite a lot of texts to these neighbours over, most are just insults but some are racial as well. He stated pre charge engagement now but he is worried he will now get a criminal record. What are you thoughts regarding this matter please. Just to add my friend has reported two hates crime for these neighbours for homophobic remarks they made to him.

My gf and I are from Mumbai, I’m dating her for a year now and we are pretty serious. She told me about her ex who she dated in school, now she is 25. she broke up with him because he was violent. He is used to harass her by contacting her or passing comments when ever she crossed by as they live in the same neighbourhood. so her parents have put a stay order on him 7 - 8 years ago. He is still the same. She told me he has been arrested multiple times for different reasons. So she told me recently he called her again from anonymous no and asked her about me and told her to meet him. She has lives in fear whenever we are in her area and she gets super nervous when she sees him. Years back, he did called her from their common friend no and asked her to meet her in a building next to her. When she showed up, her ex was there and dragged her inside the building parking lot and warned her what will happen if she doesn’t respond to her. It’s been years but he keeps showing up time and time again. By calling her or texting her or following her around the area. I don’t want her live in fear in her own area, in her own city. What can I do here. I have always tried to support her, make her feel better. Please help.

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Right now, many survivors of rape are told their trauma "happened too long ago" to deserve justice. That's not okay.

I started a petition to change the statute of limitations on rape to unlimited. Here's why: About 69% of sexual assaults go unreported because survivors need time—sometimes years—to process what happened to them and find the courage to come forward. An arbitrary deadline shouldn't punish them for healing at their own pace.

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trying to get some advice

Today my client was found not guilty in Rochester, New York, after wrongly being accused of Rape in the First Degree and Sexual Abuse in the First Degree.

If convicted he was facing up to 25 years in state prison, at the age of 68 it could’ve been a life sentence. After a day of jury selection we had our 14 member jury, 12 jurors and 2 alternates. Every time she opened her mouth the story changed, including four or five times on cross examination.

After a day and a half of testimony and 2 hours of jury deliberation my client was found NOT GUILTY of all charges. An excellent win for the rule of law.

Hello everyone, im writing this from my car cause i honestly dont know what to do, im a highschool student and im very involved with sports academics and i have a very big social circle, earlier today one of my friends walked up to me absolutely furious. She asked me if i knew this girl and i said no at first but it ended up being my ex-best friends younger sister who is a year younger than me (both minors) and i hadnt talked to in about 3 years. Apparently she had said i had grabbed her one day in the pool from behind and hadnt let go, I know i didnt even though it was so long ago. i know who i was and my morals i would NEVER put hands on another girl especially my best friends youngsr sister. I dont know if she thought it was sexual or not but shes saying it happened when it didnt. I was confused and stupidly got upset and started getting defensive trying to prove my point. My friend didnt believe me at all and we had to get to class but eventually we met back up and i pulled my ex best friend aside and we were on semi good terms and he explained that all the times her sister came down (maybe once) he had been there. aswell that im not the type of person to even do that at all, even he was astonished making sure it was his sister. at no point had me and his sister been alone together. She still didnt believe a word and said she would talk to the sister. then she would call me back and start saying that i was weird and a bunch of stuff and i was trying to stay calm telling her this was serious and it could honestly ruin my life. She ended up pulling my best friend inside and asking about the pool and she was just berading him with questions to the point where he just kept answering i dont know cause he has social anxiety and saying "This doesnt look well for you OP" It took me awhile to process what was going on and what i was being accused of but when it finally hit in my last class i was and still am terrified. i hear of all these people getting falsely accused and put in jail and their literal lives being ruined. During practice as well im just sat thinking what this can do to not only my social life but my sports career and even getting into college if this gets out. I know i didnt do anything and they have no proof because of that but i dont have any proving i didnt because it was 3 years ago and i spoke to her maybe twice in the 3 times i came over. its honestly stressing me out and im a big overthinker so its all that has and probably will be on my mind. i dont know what im gonna do if nobody believes me thank god my close friends are supporting me or i dont know what i would do. Im just scared my life will end as i know it and what im gonna do to myself if it does. This is one of my biggest fears that i never thought would happen to me. Please anyone give me some advice going forward.

Location: Columbus,Ga
I’m a Lyft driver.
Yesterday after 4 or 5 rides I got a call informing me my account would be banned due to someone saying I assaulted them. I explained to support that this claim was false along with the fact that I have video footage of every ride I completed. My account was unbanned immediately but I’d like to take legal action against the person that made the false claim. How do I go about doing that?

Hello. I will do my best to explain what’s going on, and any advice is appreciated.

Ok so boom, around the end of June, my elderly neighbor was in her front yard speaking to a tenant about getting some brickwork done on her home. They were talking, then out of nowhere, a neighbor from up the block (a 39 y/o Hispanic woman with 4 kids) runs down with her baby daddy and shoves herself into the elderly homeowner’s front yard! The two of them start a verbal altercation before the Hispanic woman lunges at her and starts physically assaulting the elderly women. Her baby daddy is blocking the gate while all this is going on, so no one can rescue the elderly woman. Eventually, a tenant comes down and rescues her, but the Hispanic couple get in his face and threaten him!

The police were called, and in the confusion, they ended up arresting the elderly homeowner but not the Hispanic couple, on the grounds that from what they gathered, the homeowner was the aggressor and because the 4 kids are under 18 and saw what happened. Her face and head were swollen and there was bruising all around her eyes. She even told me she blacked out during the fight because she hit her head when she was pushed down.

She’s doing better now but this whole mess ended up in a court date. And before anyone says “use cameras” I recorded the incident on my ring doorbell cam, but the police didn’t want to see it. Honestly, I can’t believe all this happened because she asked the 4 kids to stop playing in front of her home. They were damaging her fence, her car, and would sneer at them when her and her husband were on their porch. I get it’s a public sidewalk, but still. One of them even today picked off all the flowers she planted by her tree!

They’re a peaceful Caribbean old couple. I just don’t get it, man. 😢

UPDATE: I sent them the video from my ring doorbell cam. I will not post it to social media out of respect for the court case. The couple has asked me not to get further involved, but are glad there was recorded evidence. Thank you all for the kind words 😊

Facts you should know before I start writing paragraphs

I met my boyfriend four years ago

We had a on and off again relationship that was very toxic he was emotionally mentally verbally abusive and then it became physical at times

I was stupid and married him in May 2026

He wanted me to move into his house that he owned with him me and my daughter which is not his daughter because we’re married and that’s what married people do they move in together

As soon as I end my lease with my apartment I noticed his behavior started changing and he became very controlling even more controlling than he already was like it was just a whole new side of him

Every time I wouldn’t agree with him or comply with his demands he would say hey that’s why you canceled your lease and you’re gonna be homeless now if you don’t listen to me you’re not I’m not gonna let you move in with me and one of the phone conversations we had we were arguing and he threatened me and I threatened him back this was on June 11 I didn’t know that he was recording the conversation

We make up like we always do because I was an idiot and I move in with him on June 20

June 20 through June 26 his abuse escalated on June 26 he actually pushed me down really hard on June 27 I woke up in the morning after talking to a friend and decided that I’m going to leave

Well I learned the hard way you’re not supposed to tell an abuser that you’re leaving them so I told him over the phone while I was at the store that I just need some time to find a place to live like getting an apartment

I come back home and he changed the locks on the door we’re married I just moved into the house the locks are changed and he has his mother there as a witness to something I don’t know what she was trying to witness I thought I was gonna go crazy because he changed the locks that didn’t happen the furthest thing I did was banging on the door really loud that’s it and demand to be let in anyways I called the police

I called the police I told me they cannot do anything because they can’t force their way into the house so I need to go to Court this is a Civil matter

He would not let me get any of my clothing or my child’s clothing out of the house I was persistent though and when one officer left I called the police again and said hey can you really try to help me get my stuff out of the house I just need a bag of clothing for me and my kids so the third time I called the police finally got me in an escort to meet to the house to get some things

That night my husband ended up filing a harassment order against me online since it was a Saturday it could not be signed yet but it was still pending in the system until Monday until a judge signed it

The very next day he invited me back home saying that he restored my access to the door and that it was just a cooling off period And I can come back home but I knew that was a set up because a cooling off period is temporary a harassment order can become permanent he told me that I can come back home and live in the house with my kid if I comply to him that means I have to sleep in the basement and the lower level room I cannot be in the common areas of the house I have to stick to be in the bedroom so I can’t use the living room room the family room and the only time I can use the kitchen is when he is not home with his kids

We are a blended family but we don’t have biological children together

Anyways two weeks past in the hearing goes I’m homeless with my kid by the way and he gets he’s in the house cause he found harassment order I did file an order for protection because he did put his hands on me but because he filed first he gets to stay in the house

We get to the harassment hearing two weeks later and he plays a 15 second clip of the conversation we had where he was threatening me and I was threatening him but he only played the part where I was threatening him I told the judge that I object to the evidence because the whole conversation needs to be heard for context she denied my objection and allow the 15 second clip of me threatening him into evidence

He played Ring cam footage he did like a collage of ring cam footage of evidence him and his Attorney of me coming back to the house with the police knocking on the door trying to get in to get clothing and he labeled that as harassment and the judge allowed that

He lied and said that I was going to F him up if he didn’t let me in the house and the judge allowed that as evidence

I tried to tell the judge that I had a police report showing that this was a Civil lockout and I was only there to get personal clothing and hygiene products for me and my kid because I could no longer access my home she did not allow that police report into evidence

I objected to that evidence because it didn’t show time stamps and he was trying to prove a timeline he lied and said that after I got my clothing the third time I called the police I came back again that night and he made a collage of ring cam clips that didn’t have the date and timestamp on them to collaborate his story but she’s still allowed it

The lockout was completely ignored in the harassment case.

I’m going to appeal this because the evidence that she allowed into this case doesn’t show the context possibly for a re-trial with the evidence that’s already in the case cause you can’t bring new evidence to an appeal but demanding that the full context and the full recordings and the timestamp and dates be provided

She allowed the text messages of him bargaining with me to come back after he file the harassment order into evidence but obviously she didn’t consider it because she still granted him a permanent harassment order against me

And look at the timeline we got married in May
The conversation of me and him threatening each other was June 11

He still let me move in despite that conversation on June 20

June 26 he physically assaulted me

June 27 he locks me out of the house

The judge did order my order for protection at the same time and they had our hearings back to back but she denied my motion for exclusive possession of the home temporarily until I find a place to live because I only lived in the house for seven days

Do you think I can appeal this and possibly what I know appeals are hard but it’s worth a try

She threatened me with the police after i made a subject access request for data about me she claimed existed during a complaint I made, so I asked for it (claimed she made a referral for me - which I was not aware of). She also threatened to open a harassment case over me sending a SAR and said the case would include all contact with her regulator.

Data requests are a legal statutory right, and I asked for data - not making other remarks or threats etc. of the kind (and never have done) and everyone has a right to raise concerns with a regulatory body. I made the complaint in response to the harm I experienced.

I made a data request to the police to see if anything was recorded, and it was: a report for harassment that was closed (under a code that means she didn't/couldn't support her claims) with the dates she included were the exact dates I sent a SAR and the day she received an email from her regulator notifying her of a complaint.

When I told her regulator about this and raised it as retaliation and intimidation, they ignored everything and literally said it's not in their remit.

In the first complaint she also made risk claims that were not backed up by any evidence. They literally just took her at her word. I'd heard stories of people saying that when they complained, their therapist pathologised them and made up stories about them being a risk to others etc. but I always thought it was rare in reality, or that regulators in this day and age would be more savvy to checking those kinds of claims... and yet it's happened to me. They don't need evidence, they just need to make false claims and that's enough.

Therapy regulation is so fucked and non-existent. If therapists are allowed to report clients to the police for asking for personal data and contacting their regulators, what else can they do?

A lot of us that were falsely accused don’t come back and talk on this forum. That’s why you might feel like you barely see good news. I’m here to ensure you that many before you have gone through it and have moved on with their lives and so would you. A year ago today I was about a month away from my trial and the case was thrown out. Be careful. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Remember, DO NOT say anything to the police without your lawyer! It WILL NOT help you. It just adds to the things they will use against you. Silence, especially in the beginning is your best weapon

I’ve been living with my parents in the same house for 13+ years. This neighbour moved in about a year ago, and since then several people have had issues with her behaviour. Most people are scared to speak up because they’re worried she’ll harass or taunt them afterwards.

The issue started because of extremely loud noise from her house. It was so loud that we could feel thuds in our house and couldn’t even hear each other properly. I recorded the common passageway with audio to document the noise and sent the video only to the house owner. There is no person visible in the video.

Now she is accusing me of being a pervert and claiming I recorded her while she was bathing. I have never recorded her or anyone in her family in any private situation.

She has also threatened to get women to beat me so there won’t be a legal case against her, and said that even if my owner makes me leave, she won’t let me live peacefully.

I have the original video and the conversations.

What should I do? Should I make a written complaint to the police now, or speak to a lawyer first? I’m mainly worried about protecting myself against these false allegations and threats.

Edit - she's telling to people on phone that she'll capture my dad's bike licence plate and track him for 1-2 days, and follow him. There are empty alcohol bottles in her house itseems. So she'll take 2-3 bottles and smash them on my dad's head when there's nobody in the road. Even if i evict the soon, i will definitely somebody's head in that house sooner.

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