u/Ordinary-Tiger-9622

I dont know how to change my behaviour, but I keep feeling like a doormat who keeps getting walked all over. Im not argumentative or confrontational, if something upsets me I’m not one to start an argument usually. I try and make changes in my relationship (for him to quit smoking, for example) but I feel like he doesn’t respect my wishes or thinks I will never leave him? I guess I just want to know how do I earn respect from people , for them to want to be around me and stuff?

I’ve been looking for a job for years on and off (not as much as I should; i admit) but I’ve worked in fast food for years and just want to get out but I’m worried about the stability of other jobs. A lot of places close down etc and I’m scared to take the risk. My current job is safe, as long as I don’t mess up, in terms of it never closing I mean. Any suggestions? Something like an office jobs etc (I’m sick of customer facing roles).

My life revolves around toilets right now and I don’t know how to fix it. I’m always worrying where there’s a toilet etc in case I need to poop. Some days are better than others, but I’m worrying it’s always going to be a problem for me. I know it’s partly anxiety, but it’s just a loop, as the thing I’m anxious about is worrying I’m going to poop myself, which is then making me feel like I will because I’m anxious. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I’m scared to travel or go anywhere unfamiliar. I know the brain / gut connection can cause these issues, but I do worry there is a physical issue too, and I’m awaiting further tests at the hospital. So far had colonoscopy and waiting for CT scan. Colonoscopy biopsy came back slightly inflamed. 💩