Husband 24M and I 23F feeling miserable with life, what do we do?
My husband 24M and I 23F have been married since October and together for almost 5 years. We both struggle with a lot of mental health issues and he’s in the military so he isn’t able to get the help he deserves or needs. We moved in together just recently and have started being adults officially.
I am a nurse and work on a short staffed, mentally and physically draining floor which has been causing me a lot of stress. The idea of going to work makes me sick and in turn has me stressed every day I’m home. I also struggle with OCD and anxiety and that tends to rule my brain most days. I get a good amount of days off a week to get back to normal but most the time I am very anxious.
My husband flies helicopters in the military. He has to get a certain amount of hours flying to get to where he wants to be. While he’s home he works a job as a manager of a flagging company just for now until he gets a job at the fire department. The main reason he wants to work at the fire department is so he can have enough hours to be off to fly. He feels that what he is doing now is a waste of time. He is extremely unhappy with life, and I do feel he has a negative mindset when it comes to life. He tends to have moments of frustration where he will just talk about how unfilled he is with life. He does struggle with depression and has had a problem with it his whole life and sadly can’t get the help he deserves or he won’t be allowed to fly.
In turn I feel that all our stress about our future is tearing us down. We both are so in our own minds that we get frustrated. I don’t know what to do and I feel like at this point I get angry/irritated when he gets stressed. We have so much fun together and some days everything is fine, we laugh and joke. But other days we cry and don’t know how to help each other. I am just so exhausted.