u/OrganicExcuse

*match with a guy on dating app*

Oh wow, he seems great! We have lots in common too...

Me: *spends the next 24h fantasizing how he is my soul mate and plays out the tragic timeline of our love over and over*

Also me: *hasn't even initiated a conversation with this guy yet*

Oops... to be fair, it doesn't help that I just watched Wuthering Heights 🫣

How do I not fall back into this?! I was diagnosed this year, and one of the first things I learned about was limerence... and realized that it's the core principal that drove all of my intimate relationships in my 20s! This was a major lightbulb moment, for sure. I'm back to being single again at 36, but I want to move forward with dating in a different way than I'm used to because this level of obsessive infatuation is honestly exhausting. Any advice?

Tagged as emotional regulation because I know how fast I can become emotional irregulated with having a crush 😅

I am an acute care RD. Without going into detail, I have a patient whose family member has really extreme food beliefs, which has been inhibiting safe and appropriate nutrition care for this person. Ultimately, it has caused the patient to have severely inadequate intakes for weeks now. Unfortunately, this family member is the substitute decision maker, so I have to follow along. MD hasn't been interested in pursuing an ethics review. It's a very complex case which is teaching me lots, but the moral distress is pretty disturbing.

I've advocated options to the family, and I think a good solution is in effect, but I am feeling doubtful about the patient tolerating. However, the family member has outright declined all readily available options, even going as far as questioning my professional recommendations several times as they are a nutritionist (online certificate).

I am just genuinely shocked that the family is willing for the patient to basically starve because the readily available options for nutrition do not fit into their beliefs. It's really unnerving. I sense there are psychiatric elements at play...of course, that's not my scope to determine. However, the food beliefs are verging on delusional, but that's just my take.

Fortunately, I got to a point where I've built good rapport with this family member. However, I find myself laughing out loud in disbelief after my interactions with them.

Just wanted to share this really extreme example of how fear around food can really drive malnutrition.

ETA: I appreciate all your advice, however I have already exhausted what I can do. Social work is present in rounds and are aware of the situation. I have also had extensive conversations with the MD regarding this family member. This post is purely for rant purposes.