Normal?
Have a male friend (mid/late 60s) who was (I think) interested in me romantically, but I’m not interested in him that way mostly due to his behavior. And despite the following sound awful-he’s a nice person and a friend.
We’ve gone out to dinner quite a few times. One thing I’ve noticed: when it comes time for dessert, he always says no immediately — even when I clearly want dessert. He pays, so maybe that’s part of it.
He can talk endlessly about himself. I once intentionally stopped contributing to the conversation just to see what would happen, and he spoke uninterrupted for about 45 minutes.
There’s also this subtle “I’m above you” energy. Comments about colleges, accomplishments, intelligence, etc. Ironically, he assumes his background is more impressive than mine when it actually isn’t. He sort of puts me down-like he has all these accomplishments but mine don’t count. I don’t even think this way.
Curious if other women over 60 have run into this type of dynamic in dating/friendships with men at this age. Is this just insecurity disguised as confidence?
At this point it seems hopeless really.