As a woman, the only joy I get is from men. It is ruining my life.
For background, I was abused my entire childhood by my mother and father. My mother was the worst. My father was a violent alcoholic that behaved inappropriately with me, but he was kind to me sometimes. I was deprived of opportunities for so long. I was so, so lonely and craved sex from a man by the time I was five years old.
Now, as an adult, I get very little happiness outside of men. I see multiple men right now. Some treat me better than others. Some hurt me, but I let it happen because the attention feels like the only thing that matters. I’m by myself right now. I’ve tried so hard to get hobbies. I have a passion for art, yet I can’t get myself to feel even the slightest interest. All I want is for a man to hold me and like me. As for myself, often I feel like a complete ghost. My entire self-worth is based in others. When I am alone, I feel an emptiness where I yearn to hurt myself.
I don’t want to feel like this. I’m worried I’m broken. I can’t go on longer. I’m young and maybe this “drifter, new guy all the time” thing works right now, but it won’t forever. I want to get a boyfriend and feel normal. I don’t want to want other men while I’m in a relationship and I don’t want my romantic life to be the only thing that matters to me.