u/OtherContact1193

I was not planning to be a stay at home mom, but after baby was born I had a change of heart and decided to leave my job (husband was fine with it). He has a pretty physically demanding job, so I know he is tired after work, but I really thought he would be more involved with the baby especially on his days off (he was the one who wanted to have kids more than me). He does the yard work, some dishes, and some house work, but close to nothing with the baby. She will be 9 months old next week, we do bath and bedtime routine together (then he leaves to relax while I get her down to sleep), other than that I have to ask him to help or hold her or play with her. I know that I chose to be a stay at home mom and it wouldn't be easy, but I don't even feel like my own person anymore. I haven't had any time to myself to do anything I want in 9 months, let alone had a full night's sleep. I can't even count how many times I've said "I need to get some sleep at some point" and he just nods, but never takes a night shift on a day off so I can actually sleep. Thankfully baby slept through the night for the first time last night, so I can see the light at the end of the tunnel on that one. He wants to have another baby to try for a boy, but if he isn't going to help out, I don't think I can do it by myself. So for the stay at home moms out there, is this your experience as well? Am I expecting too much from him? I know he needs time to relax after work, but I am on call 24/7 and only get to relax after baby goes to sleep (during naps I am washing bottles, cooking, etc) and I feel like he expects me to handle everything and doesn't see or care how stressed and burnt out I am

My almost 9 month old baby girl just recently started pulling up to stand, and now she does it all the time. It's been harder to get her to go to sleep for a couple weeks, and I thought once she figured it out, that bedtime would go back to normal, but she is constantly pulling up to stand in the crib and can't settle down unless I rock her to sleep at night. Naps she goes down, but often wakes before she should and I have to let her finish the nap on me. I'm not complaining, I think it's great she is mastering a new skill, I'm just curious how long it took for the novelty to wear off for other's babies. Also, it seems she is trying to figure out walking already too. Update: today was tough to get her down for naps too. I think she is frustrated knowing how to get up but not down/afraid to let go and/or bonk her head