AITA My mom keeps getting our babies sick and won’t respect boundaries
AITA for telling my mom she can’t see the babies?? My husband (32) and I F(30) have a 2 year old and an 8 month old. My husband is the provider while I stay home with the babies. Our 8 month old specifically has been sick 4 times in her short life so far and always ends up getting all of us sick in the house and it’s always after being at my mother’s house. We have tried setting boundaries and told her no kissing the babies then she would still do it anyway. We have also been struggling financially since my husband is a small business owner he is out of work every time he gets sick and we also live off one income which is also difficult in this economy. After this 4th time of getting sick, which we ended up having to go to the emergency room cause our 8 month olds fever was so high and happened to be after we seen her(mother) few days before. we have told her she can’t see the babies for awhile, she needs to respect our boundaries and take this seriously. She then called me freaking out saying I can’t keep her grandbabies away from her forever and babies need to get sick to build their immune system but 4 times in 8 months is ridiculous! AITA for cutting her off from the kids??
Obviously there is a common question in the comments. A lot was left out cause a lot has happened in the last 8 months. All 3 illnesses happened within the first 3-4 months of her being born. She was born in October so we assumed it was just normal flu season. Before we got sick the 3rd time we caught her lying about being sick. When we picked up our 2 year old I seen open flu medicine out on the counter and a trash can full of used tissues. She was actively trying to hold back coughing as well so it was pretty obvious she was sick which i didnt notice in the little 10 second convo we had when she picked him(2 year old) up. My son ended up getting sick a few days later which got us all sick the 3rd time. We decided we needed to set boundaries with her( tell us if your sick and no more kissing) we didn’t see her much basically all spring. We seen her just last month (june) we all went to her house ended up sick a few days later and she didn’t respect the no kissing boundary. We haven’t allowed her to see the kids so has been about a month now. She messaged me today asking for them, i told her no and thats when she called me freaking out.