My husband doesn’t seem to understand that things are different now that we have a baby.
I (20F) am 8 weeks postpartum today(Friday). My husband (20M) finally just started his parental leave Tuesday of this week. He works 1:00pm - 11:30pm. When he is home in the mornings he doesn’t wake up until 9/10, and barely helps me with the baby. I always have to ask, he can’t ever just take care of our son himself. He also never holds him, it’s like it’s such a chore. He always just lays him in the bassinet. Then he leaves for work and when he comes home he doesn’t help me with the baby through the night. Only for maybe an hour or two do I actually get sleep. So I’ve basically been doing this as a single mom, whether you wanna agree with me or not on that part I feel as though I was. Anyway, to make matters much worse.. he will not give up playing Magic The Gathering. It’s a stupid fucking card game like Pokemon or YuGiOh. His dad and their coworkers play every single Saturday. And the thing is it takes them until SUNDOWN. He dedicated a whole entire day to this every week. It was fine when we didn’t have a kid but now we do and he doesn’t seem to care. They even try to make us play at other people’s houses. “Just bring the baby” .. and he will agree with them. It took me hours and lots of yelling to make him stay home a couple weekends ago. Now they’ve just been doing it at our house. I don’t ever get time to myself or with friends. I don’t even have friends to go hang out with anyway. I told him I feel like he chooses magic over me but he still plays. He’s playing right now. Am I wrong to feel this way. He says I should let him have a life. But I think it’s unfair if I can’t have one too.. maybe that’s selfish.