My bf has to get married in 2 years because of an arranged marriage
My bf is Romani for some context, and he's reminding me of the fact that one day, he has to get married when his parents find him a wife. Now his grandpa is dying due to cancer, so now they're rushing for him to marry so his grandpa can see him get married. We really like to be together romantically, but I'm starting to second guess things. I'm not romani, I'm gullah geechee. I keep overthinking this trying to see if there's a way to stay with him, and when we first started dating, this constantly made me overthink and break my skin out. Now I'm overthinking it again, but now I'm starting to wonder if we should just go back to being friends. We're in high school, and my mom is letting me know that I'm still young and there will be plenty of other guys out there for me. I guess I'm just genuinely sad about this because he's genuinely a kind, funny guy, and we greatly enjoy eachothers company. Now, his brother( 11 months younger than him) is attending our school just a year below us. And he asked me in the hallway if I could make sure nobody mentions it to his brother. I said no, which I'm kinda proud of. I've been putting his needs before mine, honestly, keeping us a secret. Now I feel like I should just cut it off. Don't get me wrong, I am fond of him and even would say I grew to love him. But I feel like everything is one-sided. My family knows about him, my friends know about him. It's really only me who's being kept a secret. And what if I'm just being selfish and preventing him from a happy marriage one day. I want to get some opinions from other romani people as I feel like you guys would also help me know how to move forward in this situation im in. I really do like him, but with what's going on, I really think I deserve better. But I also want to be with him specially. Can you guys help??
(We're in high school, btw)
Edit: I've made the decision to end things, I really don't want to. But it's probably going to specifically save me the time. I've already had talks with him about the whole marriage thing he hates it to, but ultimately, he says that he'll listen to his parents. And to be honest, maybe I was just in over my head. Being more involved in our relationship than him really took a toll on me. I always wondered if I did anything wrong or maybe if I was doing something wrong, and even making this post, I'm wondering if I'm just being harsh, especially because the school year started again. But something in the back of my mind is telling me to just let it go. I know not many replies are on my post, but even then, they were really helpful in coming to my decision. I don't feel any hatred or dislike twoards him just realization that we likely wouldn't work out. We aren't even seniors yet, and I got over my head. I don't wanna let this go, but maybe someone will come around. And love me fully, where I'm not a secret because I'm of a different ethnic group. I can only hope I'm making the right choice.
And this is low-key, probably the best, considering I posted on my ig that I'm single now, so... I chose me and my wellbeing guys <3, and I'm kinda glad to make this decision.
Edit 2: we both decided to be friends despite knowing we still like each other. Mainly because his brother attends school with us now. If it wasn't for that factor, we'd probably just figure it out like we did last year. But we're still friends because we started out as friends, so being friends isn't an issue at all. But he hates the fact he feels like he can't make his own decisions when it comes to his relationships, and I also hated overthinking things, so I guess this is the best compromise we have. Unless there's some miracle from heaven itself, this is really the only option for us.
Also! I had no idea there's so many subgroups of the roma people. He's never told me anything about him being from a specific group. But I never really asked cause I didn't want him to think I was just trying to force him to tell me everything. From what he has told me, his parents aren't strictly traditional but are more of a blend and have a more integrated mindset, kinda the same with my family and elders. For me, it's more so the elders that are like above 50 that are more traditional and more on us younger generations about certain things. And his grandpa isn't necessarily traditional himself either from what he's told me. His family isn't strictly traditional, but truly, I don't mean to sound arrogant or anything. But maybe I can ask him next week because his dad took his phone and give you guys an update. So that I can also know how to better handle this myself if I had some context to this. Although him and his dad work with scrap, he plans to study technology if he can. Sorry guys, I'm not too familiar with certain customs I'll my best to do my own research :)