Me (31F) and my husband have physical compatibility issues.
It's been almost 1 and half years since our marriage, my husband (32M) otherwise is a loving, polite and a decent guy. But we've been dealing with some bedroom issues in our marriage from the start.
He rarely initiates sex. Like even during our initial months of our marriage, we would used to have sex probably once or twice in a week or two, that too only if he feels like. He doesn't like getting too touchy either. I try to hug him but he stops me (he says I have a lot of body heat that gets emitted which irritates him).
I believe, I have a pretty normal libido. I'm ok with having sex twice, thrice a week or even more. But he says that is too much sex (even thrice is too much) and it might get boring later. So currently it's like maybe once a week or maybe once every 15-20days, which I feel is too little. Whenever I try to initiate, I get rejected saying he's tired or needs to get up early for work, so I don't initiate sex anymore but rather only wait for him to get in the mood.
But I feel, we are just in our initial years of marriage and I'm already worried about my sex life. And tbh, it's not even just sex, but I crave for the physical touch on a frequent basis. I would literally have to beg for a cuddle or hug after our work.
I of course, have told him what I feel and that I worry about our future. He doesn't think there's any problem in our relationship and even extra marital, porn addiction and too much masturbation has been ruled out. He has agreed to have blood tests done for hormone check. (Btw, we of course don't have a baby yet)
Otherwise he's a nice guy. He has the emotional understanding as well. It's just the physical part which gets me.
A few days back, I had been too harsh with him pouring my heart out about what I felt and kind of told him, that I wouldn't have married him if I knew about our physical incompatibility. (We dated for a year before marriage, never had sex then, but we otherwise used to have normal physical intimacy whenever we met).
Any suggestions or advice?? Or am I being too needy? Or having physical intimacy once in 15 days or once in a week, is okay? Please let me know if I am wrong somewhere?