Accepting my Parents are Hoarders
I’m 31 years old. I’ve lived with my parents my entire life. I’ve spent my entire life made to believe that the mess in the house was all my fault. I spent my entire life cleaning the ENTIRE house without the help of my parents. I’m exhausted. I never wanted to believe that my parents were capable of this and treating me this way, but this is neglect. I’ve been seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist this year. I’m on medication now. I’ve suspected I’ve been autistic for a long time and I’m finally getting a diagnosis. My parents have failed me in so many ways. They didn’t provide a safe space for me physically or emotionally. They didn’t get me help as an autistic person. I’m having to do all of this on my own(and with my supportive partner). Here are some photos of what the house looks like and one of the MANY times I cleaned the dining room area. And yes. That’s animal poop. It’s a lot to process, but I keep to my side of the house, I’ve set many boundaries and I don’t clean up after them anymore. Just having a really bad day with my mental health and for the most part I can ignore it or disassociate, but today’s not a good day. Also realized that because of my autism this amount of visual and physical stimuli has caused me so much stress for years. I’m trying to heal from years of this. 31 years of this.