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I never thought that I would write this, but I'm going to do it anyways. I'm still figuring out my sexuality. I used to date the opposite gender, I realized that I never had true feelings for that person but only forced myself to. I doubted myself liking women because I was told that I'm not allowed to say that I'm queer when I was 16 years old. Now that I'm older, I know that I like girls. The only thing is that I doubt myself bc I have been told during my teenage years that you can't decide your identity. I was wondering, if anyone knows how can you tell if your gay or not? Just for advice and I know that only I can make that decision. I wanted some insight from anyone