I never expected one conversation to change how I saw my fiance
I'm 38F and my fiance is 41M we live in California and we're getting married next spring we've been together for almost four years I work as a physical therapist and he manages operations for a construction company.
When he first brought up a prenup I won't lie I got quiet so my first thought was that maybe he was already planning for the marriage to fail it felt uncomfortable and for a couple of days I didn't even want to bring it up again. But once we finally sat down and talked through everything the conversation became about so much more than a legal document so we talked about our finances, retirement what we'd do if one of us wanted to stay home with future kid or what would happen if one of us inherited money so some of those conversations had never come up before even after almost four years together.
By the end of it I felt closer to him than I had in a long time it wasn't because of the prenup itself it was because we had to be completely open with each other and there wasn't really anywhere to hide we both had to explain what mattered to us and actually listen instead of making assumptions . I always thought a prenup was about protecting yourself from your partner instead it ended up making us feel more like a team and we understand each other better now and I feel like we're walking into marriage with a lot more trust than we had before. Has anyone else had an experience where a conversation you expected to hurt your relationship actually ended up making it stronger?