I’m in Australia but very curious about what life is like living in this part of Spain. I visited it two summers ago and was blown away by the food, the vibe and its history, plus beautiful scenery.
Is it welcoming to foreigners? Do you need to speak Spanish to fit in or is there a welcoming expat community. What do people do for work and how is it there during winter?
This might be a completely dumb question so apologies in advance if it is. We recently sold an investment property and put the proceeds into our home mortgage account which is now in credit to the tune of $44k and with a redraw of $110k.
Normally we would have a monthly mortgage repayment of $870 due next week. Will this no longer happen and do we need to contact the bank formally to end repayments?
Hi everyone - I have joined your group today but have been a longtime reader of your posts.TLDR - my partner of two years announced in January this year that he is a cross dressing sissy and I am struggling with the escalation of this.
We are an older couple 50 plus and both out of long term marriages. We met on a dating app in March 2025 and I thought I’d hit the jackpot. He was tall and athletic, had strong thick hair, a lovely smile and seemed to be the perfect man for me. For the record, I am petite and blonde and enjoy being on the arm of a masculine man. The sex was wonderful and there was no hint that anything was strange or off in the bedroom. The only thing I reflect on now is that he liked me wearing black - and specifically tight fitting dresses with a red jacket I have or leather black pants.
Everything was going well until January this year. He had some work pressures he was dealing with and I was being respectful that he needed space. Then on the last night of January we had dinner together and he became very solemn and said he needed to talk.
The way he said it made me think that he was ending our relationship which mentally I was semi prepared for as things had been feeling distant between us for a couple of weeks.
He then hit me with the bombshell that he enjoyed being submissive in relationships, wanted me to be his domme while he would dress up as a submissive woman. He also said he wanted me to spank him and give him golden showers.
He then revealed that he had a stash of very feminine clothes and lingerie, plus sex toys that he enjoyed wearing and using when he was alone.
He was very emotional telling me all this and cried twice in my arms. It turns out the reason things were distant was that he was weighing up whether to tell me and was frightened I would leave him.
I comforted him as best as I could and promised him that I would accept Tina in our bedroom but needed time to adjust, which he agreed then was essential.
However since then things have gotten wild to be frank. He now wants to visit gloryholes and engage with other men by going down on them, while I watch. He is also watching a lot of sissy porn, which I find very off putting. His dream is to find a trans girl for us to have sex with as a couple. This is not my dream and I have told him that. I also concerned about the health implications for us both.
I feel now that since Tina entered the room everything has changed and not in a good way. I don’t feel the same attraction for him that I did and I really struggle with the whole sissy thing. I still love him but I think daily about ending it because there will be no end to this. I’ve even composed a goodbye email as I can’t face telling him in person.
He has told me that he has never opened up about this before with anyone and that he feels very vulnerable. So if I end our relationship I fear for his mental health. He had a traumatic childhood involving abandonment and has a son with drug addiction who he will have to support for life.
Am I a terrible person for feeling this way? It’s a mixture of love and dread about how this is all unravelling so far and so fast. Please be kind!