u/PanickedPoodle

I still can't get over the sex positivity post, which really seemed to be about pump-and-dump. It had more than 100 upvotes.

I don't want to be just a hole to someone. Sex doesn't work that way for me. Yes, **it's fun**, but that's not all it is. I don't like being branded a prude if I want to at least like the person I go to bed with and know them well enough to not worry about P&D or STDs. That takes time.

It's been several days and I'm still shaken. Turning off the apps. Surely all the men out there can't believe sex is the price of admission to get a second date?

At least the guy said what he really thought, and others clearly agreed. It was an aha moment for me. Maybe I'm done dating.