Not jealous when he fucks her, but their flirting when I’m gone is driving me crazy.
Ok, so, we have been married 17 years, I’m late 30s, and she is mid 30s. We are pretty new to this whole thing, and we both are/were enjoying it very much. But the last few times my buddy has been around I get jealous if I’m not there because I KNOW she is flirting with him. When I am there, it isn’t a problem, but when I’m gone I get jealous. I hate this, it’s weird for me, I’ve never really been a jealous guy.
I guess it stems from the fact that she didn’t want anything to do with any of this, until one night, she did, it was odd, but worked out fine till now.
My buddy was over last night while I was out at my shop, I actually came home early because I couldn’t stand the fact that I KNEW she was flirting with him.
So, how is flirting a trigger for me, but him being inside her not at all. It makes zero sense to me. Anyone else have any advice, or experience with this?
Edit: I believe, talking with my buddy, I have figured out the problem behind the problem. I never got jealous about their flirting until my wife said something that hurt me, I clammed up for almost 2 weeks, then we worked it out. Since then I’ve had issues with not trusting her when I’m not around. She goes back and forth between him and I and says different things. So, I guess that is that then. Too bad.
So, has anyone been through anything similar? And fixing that distrust? The distrust wasn’t even sexually related.
Edit 2: it’s worth mentioning that I am autistic, ADHD, and dyslexic. So, it would be helpful to get any view from the spectrum.