Is my boyfriends grandad a perv or am i thinking too much into it?
My boyfriends family are weird and i don’t know what to do about it.
For context i have been with my partner for 3 years he is 22 and i am soon to be 21. His little sister came up to me a couple months ago saying how weird her grandad was being towards her and her girlfriend, saying things like (“come down to mine im in the shower”) (she showed me these messages) she would reply “no its okay i will come when you are done” and he said (“why its nothing you’ve not seen before”.) This really did shock me as i always got the creepy feeling but i didn’t know how bad he actually was, that was until my partners little sister told me “when he goes on holiday he looks at all the little girls in bathing suits.” To me he probably fantasises about them it wouldn’t surprise me anymore.
I have always got a weird vibe off of his grandad, everyone says he hasn’t been the same since his wife died. I understand people can get lonely and depressed but im sorry i do not see that as an excuse to perv on little ones!. To make matters worse Ive even caught him looking at me like that and my boyfriends brothers girlfriend too. But it is like everyone is too afraid to say something about it.
Today i said to my partner how much of a perv his grandad really is and how no one does anything or says anything to him. My partners little sisters has even told me there is not point in telling her own mother because nothing is done about it.
I personally feel very strongly about this because i was s abused from when i was months old till i was 6, so for years my family fought for me in court. So it is very personal when a young girl has come to me and her brother for help because shes confused but she doesn’t see the severity of this problem.
But today i finally said something to my boyfriend about his grandad and he actually agreed with me saying he knows how weird he is. He explained that he doesn’t know what to say to his mother because he doesn’t want to upset her, which i completely understand him but not everyone wants to accept the truth.
I asked him if she had done anything to stop him from doing this. he said yes she had “spoken” with him about it. But today she overheard me talking to my partner about his grandad (her dad). I said how he is a pedo and that her own daughter is scared to talk to her because she knows and has SAID TO ME nothing will be done about it. And the worst fact (apparently according to my partner and his mother you have to fiddle with a kid to be a pedo!!!??) (oh and the fact he cant be a pedo because hes not done it in a “long time”) My partner has 2 older brothers that haven’t done anything about it when their little sister has needed them most.
I am now not allowed back at my boyfriends house because of my opinion on his pervvy grandad unless i apologise to his mum because ive been the one to speak up finally, and i know his little sister wouldn’t even thank me because ive upset her mum when im trying to protect his bloody sister so everyone hates me now and even he is telling me to apologise. I dont know what more to do
Personally i don’t think i owe anyone an opinion and why is everyone protecting him. This world really is messed up.