am i wrong for feeling betrayed even though i was the one who ended the relationship?
i just really need honest opinions because i feel like i'm losing my mind.
my ex and i were together for almost 3 years. yes, i was the one who initiated the breakup because i felt overwhelmed and i thought it was what we both needed at the time. but before we completely let go, he kept telling me things like "hintayin mo 'ko" and that he wanted to "focus on himself, his siblings, and his family."
because of those words, i held on.
i didn't entertain anyone else. i didn't look for a replacement because i genuinely believed there was still a chance for us in the future.
then i found out he already has someone he's talking to.
i confronted him, not because he moved on, but because i felt like the reasons he gave me before weren't honest. if you already know you're going to move on or open yourself to someone else, why tell me to wait? why tell me you're focusing on yourself and your family?
every time i brought that up, his response was always, "ikaw naman ang nakipaghiwalay," "hindi kita ginugulo," "may nakakausap na ako, wala naman akong comment sa buhay mo."
i understand that i was the one who ended the relationship. i'm not denying that. but does that automatically mean i'm not allowed to feel hurt by what happened after?
he also kept saying i was making him the bad guy, when all i wanted him to understand was why i felt hurt. instead, i felt like every concern i raised got turned back on me.
what hurts the most isn't even that he has someone else. it's how fast it happened after telling me to wait. it made me question if those promises were ever real or if they were just words to make the breakup easier.
i'm also questioning my own worth now. how can someone spend almost 3 years with you, then seem okay moving on so quickly? was i really that easy to replace?
am i being unreasonable here? if you were in my position, would you also feel betrayed, or is this just something i have to accept because technically we were already broken up?