Would CPS take my daughter based only on risk?
I got a call from CPS while my husband was involuntarily hospitalized for suicidal (see other post) so I assume it was the hospital that made a report after hearing about stressors in his home. I have high intensity conflicts with him when I’m very escalated and sometimes scream loudly, throw things, and have hit him on occasion. Escalation happens either when he is egging me on with insults, swearing, belittling, verbal abuse, etc or withdrawing from me when I crave resolution for a conflict or speaking up about my needs and I feel extremely unseen/unheard. I have possible undiagnosed autism/trauma response (psych evaluation pending)and have been seeing a therapist pretty consistently for 6 years. I recognize this is a problem and I’m totally willing to seek help. I don’t want our 14mo daughter growing up seeing this as normal HOWEVER she has never been harmed from these rage episodes. Everyone who meets her notes how sweet, social, and well-cared for she is. She’s very bright and ahead on her milestones. I was honest with our SW during the home visit about how I’ve had these behaviors before but when I hit my husband and spit on him while he was holding our daughter when she was a NB I was freshly postpartum and went to a hospital treatment program the following week. It has been over a year and I have not hit him or spit on him since. I learned to leave the house when I’m getting escalated which my husband does NOT support and says I’m abandoning my daughter and not putting her needs first. Our SW said the allegations against me were not substantiated, she just had to interview my husband and then she would close out the case. Fast forward to their meeting, he shows her the video from over a year ago where I can be seen spitting on him and apparently based on that meeting, she decided to open the case against me and have us to an intensive families first program where someone works with us for 10 hours a week for 4 weeks. This is for families where there is evidence of abuse and to prevent child removal. They would really consider removing my daughter from 2 loving parents and placing her God knows where based on a video from over a year ago? Wouldn’t the risk of psychological damage from removing her outweigh the potential risk of her staying with her family since there is absolutely no evidence of us abusing or neglecting her?