u/PeachyIceMilk

I am so sorry for this little rant but i have to get this out of my system, been holding it and hiding it for many years. Thank you for listening.

Im a woman, 21 years old and ive been having this pain in my vaginal area for about a year or two now. It comes and goes maybe once a month or two, i have it for a couple days then it goes away. Ive been researching things about the pelvic floor but im still not sure what it quite is since there's many possible answers. I should probably go get this checked out as well.

Yesterday, a day after non vaginal masturbation, i have started feeling pain since the morning. It feels like period cramps but slightly different. It worsens the more i go through the day to the point where i have to take ibuprofen. The more i walk or lift things the worse it gets. Sometimes standing up feels more comfortable then sitting down.

This has been going on for a while and im used to the whole process already and know what to do to make myself feel better. Exercise helps and a hot shower. Rest of course as well.

Today i exercised but it made the pain slightly worse. I tried working on ab muscles to strengthen them since i think the issue lies in weak muscles.

I also lift heavy at work and im not that strong, im really weak in my legs and even with proper lifting technique it all hurts in my back and i suppose in my privates now as well? When i started this job i lifted heavy and fast while walking around with heavy object, turning and twisting my back in ways that are not good. Probably messed up my back from that. Ever since then i felt pain in my back. I try to work out once a week (or more), but im so tired from work i end up laying in bed with my phone for many hours.

I also smoke. I heard something about proper breathing technique on this forum and i might not be breathing deep enough since i smoke?

Also worth mentioning that as a child i held in my pee for EXTENSIVE periods of time. I would go pee two or three times in a day only. Also wouldn't drink many liquids through out the day. It came to a point where on a regular basis when i did have to go pee, I couldn't, nothing would come out and then i would forcefully push the pee out. Obviously i stopped doing this many years ago. But i still feel like i have to really focus when going to pee. Id call myself pee shy. When someone is around i just cant focus enough to pee even if i feel like im going to piss my pants.

Sex is also a sensitive topic for me. Ever since i started having it, i hated it. If there was an option to go without sex my whole life i wouldn't mind it at all. When i have it regularly with my partner its great, but if we dont see each other for a long time, it feels like my vagina kind of "shrinks". When that does happen its either too tight and i can almost feel like im tearing my vagina or its having pain in my cervix. Or both at the same time.

Whenever i get the chance to work out several times a week i have better sex drive and no pain during sex. Does this just mean my lower muscle are weak???

Thank you everyone for listening and im excited to chat and discuss this with all of you❤️

I am so sorry for this little rant but i have to get this out of my system, been holding it and hiding it for many years. Thank you for listening.

Im a woman, 21 years old and ive been having this pain in my vaginal area for about a year or two now. It comes and goes maybe once a month or two, i have it for a couple days then it goes away. Ive been researching things about the pelvic floor but im still not sure what it quite is since there's many possible answers. I should probably go get this checked out as well.

Yesterday, a day after non vaginal masturbation, i have started feeling pain since the morning. It feels like period cramps but slightly different. It worsens the more i go through the day to the point where i have to take ibuprofen. The more i walk or lift things the worse it gets. Sometimes standing up feels more comfortable then sitting down.

This has been going on for a while and im used to the whole process already and know what to do to make myself feel better. Exercise helps and a hot shower. Rest of course as well.

Today i exercised but it made the pain slightly worse. I tried working on ab muscles to strengthen them since i think the issue lies in weak muscles.

I also lift heavy at work and im not that strong, im really weak in my legs and even with proper lifting technique it all hurts in my back and i suppose in my privates now as well? When i started this job i lifted heavy and fast while walking around with heavy object, turning and twisting my back in ways that are not good. Probably messed up my back from that. Ever since then i felt pain in my back. I try to work out once a week (or more), but im so tired from work i end up laying in bed with my phone for many hours.

I also smoke. I heard something about proper breathing technique on this forum and i might not be breathing deep enough since i smoke?

Also worth mentioning that as a child i held in my pee for EXTENSIVE periods of time. I would go pee two or three times in a day only. Also wouldn't drink many liquids through out the day. It came to a point where on a regular basis when i did have to go pee, I couldn't, nothing would come out and then i would forcefully push the pee out. Obviously i stopped doing this many years ago. But i still feel like i have to really focus when going to pee. Id call myself pee shy. When someone is around i just cant focus enough to pee even if i feel like im going to piss my pants.

Sex is also a sensitive topic for me. Ever since i started having it, i hated it. If there was an option to go without sex my whole life i wouldn't mind it at all. When i have it regularly with my partner its great, but if we dont see each other for a long time, it feels like my vagina kind of "shrinks". When that does happen its either too tight and i can almost feel like im tearing my vagina or its having pain in my cervix. Or both at the same time.

Whenever i get the chance to work out several times a week i have better sex drive and no pain during sex. Does this just mean my lower muscle are weak???

Thank you everyone for listening and im excited to chat and discuss this with all of you❤️