u/PeanutPrestigious256

So can someone explain to me why in astrology (sorry if this has been answered before) it’s somehow always negative? What I mean by that: either there is a mercury retrograde which already happens like 6 months of the year. Then if there is no mercury retrograde, or even if there is one, there are x amount of other retrogrades. Or/and there are eclipses or eclipse seasons. I don’t really know but it always seems like there is no “good” time - if you’re lucky, some retro shade is ending or there is some sort of day where things manifest. But overall it’s very negative it’s a big turn off for me. And yes that might be things to channel as growth but cmon, surely it can’t all be struggle minus a few days here and there.

Please explain this to me!!

So I am currently trying to assess whether my relationship is “enough” for me. I frankly like being with my ESFP, and so do they with me I think. However, there are some issues I’ve noticed:

- 1) He wants total freedom (fine; so do I), but I also need to have a friendship with someone. Which means if we don’t connect via talking (due to S - N difference), I do need to go on little adventures or just spend time together every now and then, consistently. In the beginning I thought the S - N axis meant he actually is more practical so we will spend time doing stuff together. How exciting! Now I’m finding that yes; he is a doer - but he only does things he wants to do… and spending time together would require me to join him in his hobbies. Because he’s convinced his hobbies are also worthwhile, I think he’s convinced that that’s how it has to be. I brought this up a couple of times saying: hey, that’s not fair! Let’s do something we both enjoy, you don’t join me in my hobbies either and I wouldn’t expect you too… upon which he said: well, then you have to plan something. Which brings me to my next point.

- 2) he wants me to be the planner / his personal Assistent / mommy. So fine, I start planning things, but if they’re not exactly what he wants to do with his time or he has controlled, he’s kinda absent minded / unenthusiastic. And because I’m also a P, obviously then I just give up because it’s not in my nature to be a planner anyway. But that doesn’t stop him from trying haha, if I LET HIM, and if I wasn’t smart enough to see through it, he’d 100% have NO issue “using” me as some sort of personal assistant / mother. Feels like a Fi Te thing to be honest. He’s very charming so it took me a while to understand this. Also it’s gotten worse with time.

- 3) He’s kind of a liar and only ever does things if he gets something out of it. Like he will lie about all kinds of things all the time, sometimes it’s petty reasons because he doesn’t feel “cared enough” for by me, sometimes it feels more nefarious. The worst flavour of this is when he pretends he did something for me but I KNOW 100% there is something in it for him. I think he thinks there’s nothing wrong with it and everybody does this.. which being me to the final point:

- 4) I think his understanding of a relationship / love is similar to a family household relationship. Meaning that: you live with your parents / siblings. Everyone is doing their own thing living their own lives all day long. You don’t tell each other everything, everyone has their own secrets. Every now and then you go on a family holiday together. You also lie to each other and are somewhat disloyal, joking around sometimes but in the end, when it really counts, you are there for each other and that’s all that matters. Which is NOT what I think a relationship is haha. I specifically do not want that: I want a fellowship, a partner, a relationship rooted in deep friendship and trust; being always honest with each other and knowing everything about the other person. Not sure it’s an Fi - Fe thing. But I don’t want to live parallel lives haha.

In the end, maybe they do need the good old ISTJ dominatrix who fulfills a lot of these roles naturally. But cmon, you can’t just take take take. You gotta give, too!

I will say he’s also the cutest little bug, we genuinely have a cute relationship. Everyone who sees us thinks we’re so good together. And he’s very charming and caring. And I see most of that as amusing me, not as threatening.

Anyway any input appreciated!

“Warning, ecological death zone”, “30 seconds”….

I kinda hate the new lady systems voice? The older one sounded.. like a systems voice, like a Siri - cold and uncaring yet eerily warm and likeable. Just like those voices were designed.

The new one sounds more like an actual lady with an accent bossing me around telling me what to do? But also not being charming or anything, just like a MOM. I don’t know I hate that it really breaks the immersion for me tbh, anyone else feeling the same?

also what’s up with the bad robot welcome aboard captain voice like why is that so obnoxiously bad like a broken tape and why does the tadpole sound exactly like the sea truck please just bring back the sea moth, not only does it sound better and feel nicer but it would be so iconic and great in terms of continuity and you can keep the tadpole as an option.