How to Separate Amicably?
Hello all,
D-Day was over a year and half ago. I've been in a relationship with my BP since we were 20 and in college. Now soon to be 30, R seems to be an nearly impossible path to go down and we are considering conscious uncoupling.
There has been a number of things that have come up that we just can't seem to shake in order to reach a better place in our relationship. Things like BP coming out as bisexual, taking a "hall pass" shortly after D-day, lack of empathy on both sides, and us just simply changing as people. These aspects have made our R very difficult to come by and we have come to the conclusion that we need to be apart in order to work on ourselves and to even *consider* R in the future.
So to get to my question, has anyone gone through something like this after being with someone for almost a decade and having to cut ties with them? So much of our life is intertwined with each other. Credit cards, furniture, dogs, relationships with family members, Netflix subscriptions, etc.Thankfully no children or rings.
I don't know where to even begin this process while also having to find a new job and place to live along the way. I know I deserve the struggle as WP, but this is going to be one of the most heartbreaking things I do in my life, and I want to make sure it's done correctly and with the least amount of hurt on both ends. Any thoughts, advice, or wisdom is helpful.