Addressing violent language used by young kids
My (very likely neurospicy - definitely sensory processing, maybe ADHD, and possibly pathological demand avoidant) 5 yo son has been experimenting with using aggressive or generally inappropriate language (think "stupid" at the least offensive and what he said to me today, "I'm going to punch you so hard in the stomach you die" at it's worst). We've been redirecting him and reminding him that "we use safe and kind words in this family" and either ignoring him or pausing activities if he continues.
He barely watches TV and when he does, it's PBS kids. He's at a very sweet school that really focuses on emotional regulation and connection. So I truly don't even know where he's coming up with this stuff.
Violence and hurting people is extremely triggering to me. I know this is developmentally typical but I'm very much at my wits end.
Especially those with neurospicy kids, how have you handled this? He's such a sweet and thoughtful kid generally, but I'm worried he's going to say something to get himself expelled from kindergarten next year. I need some fresh ideas